Stop Cuckolding – back to earlier relationship

There is no going back. Once your wife has tried the delights of another man with your acceptance, then she has all the freedom to do as she pleases.
Cuckolding life style is fantastic to be part of and you should embrace what your wife and her lovers do.
Sure, your individual sex may suffer, but get the enjoyment in seeing your wife being pleasured.

Well Loxi, first of all we are not all from English speaking countries, I’m from Denmark so don’t worry about language.

Assuming you ask to get a serious answer, I think you can – or should be able to – go back to monogamy any time one of you want this. A real marriage is founded on respecting and caring about each other, and saying “no way back” is not aligning with this.

How did you get into cuckolding? Assuming with fantasies from you and her that turns out to be so fascinating you wanted to try. But only after serious conversations and considerations what it would mean to your marriage?

I think the way you get into the game is the same way you get out. Talk about it with your wife, explain to her why you want to alter your lifestyle and if she’s your true life companion she will respect your reasons the same way she respected your reasons to go into the game.

We had been “in and out” in the game several times during the past years due to health and stress issues, and even though my wife enjoys the freedom to fuck others (better endowed men) than me, she would quit in a moment if I asked for it.

Thinking your wife is under the “cock spell” and doesn’t want to quit her lover will not be true in a real marriage.

Go talk to your wife and sort things out. Life is not static, who knows what you want in 6 months, 6 years? What should remain is your commitment to each other

As Voyeurcuck said, talk to your wife. You may not share with us why you want to go vanilla but you will need to share with her. Communication is key to any relationship.

A lot also depends on why she is seeing her lover. If she got into this and is seeing him because you wanted her to then her heart might not be really in it. Once a month is not very often for sex or building a relationship unless they are online all the time and have to travel to see each other. Still, I would it would be easy for her to break off if it is just sex.

On the other hand, if they/you are into a D/s relationship and he is dominating her (you said “not so dominate Hotwife”) she may find it very difficult to give him up. It is not just about sex, it has to do with mental mindset, feeling safe, and a chemical rush that going into subspace creates. I think you understand that if you are a sub. She may be able to give up the big dick but not the feeling of being desired by a strong man and satisfaction of service. You might ask her if she would serve a Dom who does not want sex – there are some but might be hard to find. I know one “Service Dom – he will do to you exactly what you want done.” but most want more than a cuddle for thier own satisfaction.

As far as sex, what does she like. If she really likes penetration you could use a strapon or dildo. If you don’t like something going into her – tough – it’s her body, her call. But if she likes it then you should accept it. Helping her in that respect would help the relationship.

I will add a caveat. If she really likes getting laid by another man she might stop the current one for you, but eventually she will fall off the bandwagon and have an affair. Be ready to accept it or deal with it.