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July 2, 2016 at 4:17 pm #15156Tony
I’m starting this, and will update it periodically with progress status. We are a married couple who has been swinging for about 6 years. We are the love of each others lives and our sex life is quite satisfying for each of us. We discuss it often. Our ‘normal’ swinging experiences are couple to couple full swaps, though we are OK with soft play if the partners prefer it. We always play as a pair and we always play in the same room and same bed when possible as we love to see and hear each other’s pleasures. We have been with about 30-40 couples over the 6 years, which includes a few of the couples joining us 2 to 4 times.
Recently, we decided to try some MFM 3-somes, just for some added variety. That’s when something happened in MY head. In our normal couples play I would be quite focused on the other woman I was playing with, as one would hope, and was just ‘aware’ but not focused on my wife’s experience. I would make sure she was OK and not being mistreated by the other guy. But in the MFM case my focus was able to shift away from myself and onto what my wife was experiencing.
By happenstance the first guy we had join us was VERY well hung and much larger than my rather average size. In order to give my wife and the new guy a chance to get acquainted, I chose to just sit back in a chair and let them get started, figuring I would join in when they got going good. I was quite turned on as I watched them standing in front of me, kissing, sliding their hands up and down each others bodies, and smiling and giggling with each other as they progressed. They started slowly undressing each other, bit by bit and i was even more excited, hard as a rock without touching them or myself. Then my wife reached in his briefs and flopped out that enormous cock and I could see the thrill and excitement on her face. She dropped to her knees and took that huge meat into her mouth. He turned his head and looked me in the eye and smiled. I thought I was going to blow my load across the room at that moment, but I held it back.
They continued on as they became fully naked and he laid her back on the bed. He aggressively ate her pussy for a good (VERY good) half an hour or more as my wife came repeatedly, loudly moaning and even crying out several times. She loves oral and was clearly thrilled by what was happening. She occasionally looked over at me as well, with a smile that revealed her obvious satisfaction. Then he kissed and tongued his way up her body and they kissed passionately as he positioned himself over her and lowered that long hard cock against her opening. She was sopping wet and needed no further preparation. I got out of my chair and stood beside the bed where I could get the best possible view of them. Then he began pushing that giant cock into her cunt, slowly, inch by inch, occasionally pulling back a bit before pushing further in. It seemed like he took forever to reach his full depth, with her moaning and gasping as he went deeper and deeper. I could no longer hold back as I was at least as thrilled as she was. I blew my load onto her stomach without even touching it. They both were surprised and laughed at my spontaneous spurt. I was a bit embarrassed but my pleasure and relief overpowered every other feeling I had going on.
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July 2, 2016 at 5:44 pm #15157Tony
Part 2 …. I stayed by the bed, mesmerized by the sight of that monster sliding out and back into my lovely wife. He was good, and she was proving it in her facial expressions, her moans and her cries has he pumped her hard, then gently stroked in and out, then back to hard pounding. He rolled her over into a doggie position, which anxiously and hurriedly accomplished. Then I again witnessed as he slowly pushed that huge meat into her from behind. She cried out again. I will never forget that scene, and I have no desire to. I was hard again, just from watching this exhibition of sexual power and emotion by both of them. He came in her, bareback, as we had vetted him before meeting. I could actually see his thick long cock pulsating and throbbing as he came, half in and half out of her pussy. God, it was exhilarating!
They laid down side by side with him pulling her close as they tried to recover. In all he fucked her three times that night and I never did join them. I was just so enthralled with observing these two ravaging each other, cumming with each other and exhausting each other that I honestly had NO desire to risk interfering with their … relationship. I watched, enjoyed, laughed and talked with them both all evening, until he decided he needed to go home. He dressed and we both walked him to tbe door, where he turned to my still naked wife, wrapped his arms around her, with one hand landing on her lovely ass and kissed her with the passion of a long time lover. I stood there watching and smiling broadly. When he finished his kiss, he shook my hand and stepped out of the door. I put my arm around her waist and walked her back to the bedroom where she got fucked 3 more times before the night was over. I have never seen her so satisfied snd totally relaxed when we finally settled off to sleep, our nude bodies intertwined with each other as we faded away. -
July 2, 2016 at 6:07 pm #15158Tony
Part 3 … I didn’t think much about this event and my reaction to it. I thought about the excitement, constantly, as we fucked a LOT after that experience. But I didn’t think about the meaning of it. A month or so later we invited a 2nd single man to join us. His length couldn’t compare to the first guy, in fact he was not any longer than me, but his girth was surprising. I took the same approach of watching as they began to kiss and my boner was just as fast and hard as before. It surprised me. When he finally prepared to begin fucking her, I again stepped up to the edge of the bed to get an eye full. This time he was very slow and cautious, knowing his fat cock would literally be a stretch for my petite wife. We both could see she was a bit pained by the amount she was stretched. I went to the other room and got them the coconut oil. He skillfully massaged it into her pussy, greasing every millimeter thoroughly, inside and out, while stimulating her further. Then he stroked the oil onto the whole of his cock. This time, as he slowly and cautiously pushed into her, his meat slid home. Her mouth gasped, her eyes popped and she let out a slight whimper. I was so fucking hard! Again, I never did join in, as it would have been less enjoyable than what I was watching.
They fucked twice that night, always slowly and carefully, as I watched joyfully, and the parting scene was similar as he embraced her naked form and kissed her long and firmly before walking out the front door. Again, we nearly ran back to the bedroom and she got 3 more railings before we passed out for the night. -
July 4, 2016 at 8:05 pm #15296Tony
All of that is what led up to this… since those MFM events we have resumed our couple/couple swingers play. But after having 3 new encounters, with 3 new couples, I have found that I’m not my old self. I am not giving those new women a good time the way I’m used to doing it. My focus on them is not so focused, as I find myself paying more attention to what’s happening with my wife, 2 feet away. Is she getting a nice big cock? Is he pumping her hard? Can I see him sliding inside of her from here? How does she look? What expressions are on her face? Is she excited? Thrilled? Cumming? Is he giving her the kind of ride she deserves to have? Oh, oh! MY dick is soft! THIS isn’t working for me.
So suddenly, all I can think about anymore is my wife’s sex and not my own. I don’t even CARE about this other woman who is naked and sitting on my face. Her ass, lovely and tasty as it is, is blocking my view of my wife getting fucked. DAMMIT! What IS my problem??!!
Then one evening a few weeks ago I was looking through AFF for some fun real life porn videos and I hit the profile of a couple in New Jersey. He is a cuckold. I didn’t really know what that was, but they have some videos, so I check them out. BOOM! This guy is telling a story with his videos. He adds captions of what he is seeing and thinking as he watches his wife with another man. They are making out on the couch, she is on his lap and he’s stroking her ass as they kiss. “This is my WIFE with that guy.” “She is loving this!” He goes on revealing his thoughts in captions as he follows them up to their bedroom. He shows them fucking through the doorway and he is going crazy over it. His thoughts are MY thoughts! His excitement is MY excitement! This guy is just like me! Is this what a cuckold is? I’m jerking off and it doesn’t take long. I watch another one. I jerk off again! Just a few minutes later. GOD, this is hot! So I start looking into this cuckold thing to see what it’s about. I found a few more AFF couples with ‘hotwives’ screwing lots of different guys while the hubby records it all. One guy even eats his wife’s pussy after she gets fucked, then he fucks her too, all on camera. Great stuff! So I started Googling this cuckold thing and I found THIS site. The definitions were very helpful and the blogs and forums and recommended sites provided LOTS of education. I’m so glad I found this place. It soon became clear that I needed to explore this for myself. Of course, I need to talk with my wife about all of this and explain it all to her. I have read so many cases of guys trying to convince their wives to ‘go hot’ and start dating other men. I can imagine how tough that could be, but MY wife has been screwing other guys for years, and loving it, so I don’t see this being a tough sell. I kept reading and looking for the right opportunity to explain this to her. That’s next. -
July 5, 2016 at 4:55 am #15297SubHubAndWifey
Sounds very similar to how we got into cucuckolding Tony. We were swingers for 8 years before we came to this! First rregular couples swap, then we migrated more toward mfm/hotwifing, then BBC, to cuckolding.
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July 10, 2016 at 7:37 pm #15342Tony
Last week my wife had to go out of town for a couple of days of business meetings. My schedule was quite flexible that week so I went along with her and we drove. It provided several hours of time together in the car…. to talk.
As we do from time to time, I asked her how her sex life was. It’s a good opportunity to discuss likes, desires, dislikes, ideas, etc. Good news! Her answer was that she “would like MORE!”. I was happy to hear that answer, because it was now her turn to ask me. I said that I stumbled into something lately that really turned me on and I’d like us to try it. She was excited. I explained my feelings from our recent MFM events and my desire to start doing more of that. I explained that as a ‘hotwife’ she could be having sex with lots of guys, while I would watch and perhaps join if she wanted me to. After a bit more explanation she said ..”Why would I NOT go for this?”. We talked a little about her being able to pick her own partners and anything she wants without asking me. She repeated “Why would I NOT?”.
We discussed some potential guys, including the ‘big two’ we met before. I also suggested that some of her ‘old’ BF’s from before we met might be candidates. Her eyebrows went up, she let out a “hmmmmmm…” and she clearly started thinking about a few rematches. We agreed we will start lining up some new partners for her ASAP. -
July 13, 2016 at 1:33 pm #15354LuvrKeymaster
Many, if not most couples involved in swing would be better off and happier as cuckold couples – often they just didn’t know this option exists. Most every swing couple will tell you that finding couples where everyone is equally into the ‘trade’ aspect of swing is very difficult. Almost always there is some variation and one or more people are left feeling underwhelmed. Another benefit to cuckolding is it is wife-centric by nature whereas swing is sort of everyone for themselves. Yes, the couples may be together and share within their marriages about it after the fact, but cuckolding focuses everyone’s involvement on that one woman.
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July 13, 2016 at 7:14 pm #15356Tony
I agree with you, Luvr. We had many a play date where one of us (wife or me) had a disappointing evening. Occasionally BOTH of us. Our best swinger couple friends were both psychologists. One evening as we 4 were resting up from a great time together, our fine gentleman friend began to talk about how incredibly difficult it is to find what we 4 had together… 4 people who were so wonderfully compatible both in and out of the bedroom. He was right. They quite deservedly retired and moved away. We have yet to find that again. We look forward to this new adventure.
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July 29, 2016 at 9:03 pm #15465Tony
Just a short update. We have identified a few new gentlmen that she is open to meeting and perhaps playing with. In addition to the 2 I mentioned in my history above, who are both VERY willing to return and become regular dates for her. We meet our first new candidate tomorrow night. No play will happen, just meet and talk over drinks to get acquainted. Then she and I can go home and discuss him joining her or not. More soon…
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August 11, 2016 at 11:36 am #15641johndough
What you have described is what I want for my wife- total pleasure, I want the encounter to be all about her pleasure and satisfaction. Sure I’d like to be invited to join in but I want her to be satisfied completely in a way that I can’t.
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August 11, 2016 at 7:54 pm #15643Tony
Thanks for that, JD. I agree with you, the thrill is in seeing HER pleasure and excitement. She deserves every moment she can get.
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August 20, 2016 at 10:03 am #15687OttawaBull
Your story is not uncommon.
In my experience as a Bull I’ve had two of my long term couples started off trying swinging. With both the husbands told me that while they were swapping they were always more interested in seeing their wives pleasured, that the woman they were fucking.Once they discovered their desire for a different dynamic it was just a matter of convincing their wives. One was a very long transition, with the other it was a natural progression.
Good luck in your adventures!
G.
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November 15, 2017 at 9:23 am #19636Anonymous
Maybe a sports analogy works for some, certainly something a lot of men could relate to…..perhaps we could consider cuckolding to be a specialized, evolved form of swinging, with a wife (or GF) taking the role of designated hitter for a couple. ha ha.
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September 21, 2017 at 8:27 pm #19224JandGinSD
The basic reality is that the focus in swinging is, has always been, and will always be on the wives. Except for the bi females who are looking for unicorns, the thunder is dominated by a select subset if males, the Bulls, on the other side. There is,rarely much parity for typical husbands in swapping. If you do it long enough, you face reality and migrate to hotwife status. The awkward pairing up fades away and the sex becomes maximally satisfying more often than not, as long as you are selective. The thing with hung single men is a lot of them enjoy bringing it more than anything. It is a charge to the ego, as it us to mine when my maturity can completely satisfy such wonderful men.
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October 13, 2017 at 5:10 pm #19426Anonymous
If you feel like cuckoldry or a hotwife approach seems more natural, it probably is….for you anyhow. To me it seems like a swinging lifestyle would foster an element of competition, in the moment with the other husband certainly, between wives perhaps, but also between the swapping couples. It would add a layer of extra pressure on a guy to perform too and I really doubt I’d thrive; that’s one thing I’d probably shy from. I think it could very well spill over into being a competition between a husband and wife in some ways too, which you also hear of in open relationships. That would be a no-win proposition for me therefore a total non-starter for us. I can’t imagine I’d enjoy any of that at all. But none of that really figures much with me because at the root of it there’s this — I really don’t really want to have sex with other women. I’d much rather we invest ourselves in a surer thing, with wonderful growth potential.
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October 28, 2017 at 7:28 pm #19519Beckynstu
We did it pretty much the same way as many on here,. seems a common progression
we had been swinging for 5 years, couple to couple at first, then mmf and mmmf, which progressed into same with BBC , and hotwife/cuckold -
January 18, 2018 at 6:36 am #20230Gracie
It is really great that so many swingers migrate to pure cuckoldry. My wife and I did not start out that way. I knew that if I could not satisfy my own wife, how could I satisfy another woman? So we went straight to cucking. I love it. So does my wife. She is extremely happy sexually. It is great, and I would recommend that more couples move in that direction.
Gracie: Chick with a Dick
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January 27, 2019 at 7:15 pm #26828Tony
Hello again. Back when I started our rather lengthy story, it was my intent to continue reporting on our progress and experiences. Unfortunately, my wife experienced a serious back injury that has required 3 surgeries and a LOT of down time (over 2 years) from our outside play. Neither of us wanted to risk further injury or cause her a set back. We were able to play together, slowly, gently and in limited ways/positions.
Well, she is finally back to herself and her Dr. has given her the go ahead to resume her normal activities again. If only he knew what that meant! So we have just reconnected with our 2 old well hung friends and both are more than ready to ‘reconnect’ with her. I briefed them on MY interest in watching closely so that they know what to expect. Both were fully on board. After the first play date with each, I plan to discuss with them that they can be free to treat her as their own and ignore me entirely. In fact, the more intimate the ‘girlfriend experience is, all the better from my perspective. She is also fine with all of this and is giddy about getting back in the swing of things. We will also get back to seeking more partners for her. I will keep up the reporting here, in hopes others can be informed about things that may work for them.
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February 20, 2019 at 10:56 am #27043johndough
Welcome back Tony. Sorry to hear about your wife’s back problems but hopefully she’s ready and able to get back into the lifestyle. Feel free to share your experiences with us as you have in the past.
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