When Cuckolding Becomes Polyamory

Our two cents…the clear line between cuckolding and Poly to us is genuine romantic feelings for the “bull.” When the wife develops love for the other man, feelings well beyond the desire for sex, that’s when the relationship changes. Many cuckoldress’ have feelings of fondness in addition to physical attraction, some even require a level of personal attachment before they can have sex. However, the “amore” for the other man in addition to the husband is a different, deeper, longer-lasting set of feelings.

With the desire of my wife for an “extra husband’ the road to a poly-relationship has been opened.

In my opinion poly and cuckolding can go together really well. In a traditional poly relationship there is equality between the wife and her two or sometimes even more men.For me till now it has been or lust or sometimes even love for my wife with another man. But it wasn’t really poly but merely a kind of love crush.

Since recently my wife has told me she would like to have an “extra husband” as she would like to call it. One whom combines lust and love next to my devotion and love. She says I will always be her nr 1 as I am her first husband, our mental connection is so strong and she love my devotion. Her “extra husband” will need to have other strenghts and she will love him for that. She told me that when she has found her ‘extra man’ my current already long term period of no-penetration and no-orgasm will be made indefinite. I accepted this by kissing and caressing her and of course licking her to a few wonderful orgasms.

I do love to support her in her search!

So interesting to see others takes on this topic. I suppose when feelings are embraced to the point of the person becoming more than an extra sexual organ, that thinking of it in terms of polyamory is possible.

I’m rusty, but I think the technical way poly relationships work, is that people have primary and secondary partners, all with different roles.

Where as cuckolding is one, faithful husband, allowing his wife to explore to her hearts content (in many cases anyhow).

I think where the husband’s relationships lie is really where the terminology changes. If he is either involved with the wife and bull, then maybe a poly term would be more appropriate (unless he is cut off from sex). If the husband sees other women, then It certainly is entirely poly.

NOTE

I’m newish, my terminology and knowledge may not be 100% fact, but it is what I am pretty sure the defining traits of these relationships are considered. I’m welcome to bring corrected .

I think it’s important to point out that polyamory is rather different than cuckolding because cuckolding is wife centric whereas polyamory is more akin to an ‘open marriage’ where both are free/expected to have secondary and even tertiary relationships.

The difference between polyamory and swinging is like the difference between a hotwife marriage and a cuckold marriage: the depth of the experience. A swing couple dips their toes in and treats it only as a sexual experience while a poly couple will indulge in the relationship aspects.

One other distinction is that poly typically operates as a peer relationship but cuckolding infers and typically needs someone to be in charge and this is more in line with our wiring.