Wife staying at hotel with Bull all night?

Hello

Thank you to everyone in advance who can share some insight and thoughts on this….

My wife and I have talked and fantasized about the cuckolding lifestyle and experience for quite a long while over the past year+. We finally had our first actual experience about a week ago after she met a nice guy online, talked for about a week or two and then we decided to chunk a rock and just go for it. She met him out last week at a local pub & grill, had a drink, and some lengthy conversation…..eventually after the bar closed, they decided to have some fun at a hotel (oral was the extent of it, nothing further) and she was home around 1:45 am. She kept me up to date the entire evening and let me know she was safe and secure the whole time. He did ask her around 1:00 am if she just wanted to stay the evening there at the hotel with him, and she politely declined and said she needed and wanted to get home to me….he was by all accounts very understanding and went home himself to his wife (him and his wife both play separately).

Planning their second “date” he has somewhat assumed by accounts that they would just send the entire evening together, and has even suggested breakfast in the am. My wife and I both took it as a little pretentious as he has also asked her what hotel she would prefer to spend the evening in (they are both driving about 50 min to- avoid running into people they may know.

My wife seems comfortable and ok with staying…..she has explained to me that learning all about this and what she may like/dislike will take some time and this could give her an opportunity to not feel rushed, really get to know him better and honestly just get some sleep without having to c=drive home close to an hour at 3:30 in the morning.

I get all of that and understand that I need to support her and let her explore this lifestyle on her terms rather than me making a bunch of rules and expectations….The only thing I struggle with here is the fact that no where’s in our sexy talk and fantasizing did this come up about her being out all night (5:15 pm – 7:00 am), actually & literally sleeping with him in an intimate way, and getting home when I am starting my day off (kinda feels like we are missing that opportunity of reconnecting and reclaiming that we both fantasized about). The other thing here that I struggle with some is how quickly we are considering this and engaging in it. This is date #2 and it just feels like graduate level experience while we are still learning the ropes and very much novice amateurs.

We have communicated extensively, talked about avoiding feelings, intimacy to an extend and keeping it all in a common sense perspective. She even told him 2 days ago that me and her needed some time to talk about certain things and he respected that and did not contact her until she reached back out to him this morning. Ultimately, I agreed to the “overnight” because I understand that she has got to be and feel empowered to make decisions on her terms, as she is the one in the middle between the two of us.

And insight, thoughts, experiences and advice/opinions would be greatly appreciated. Please don’t hold back and let me know if I conceding too much too soon.

Thank you all….

Logan