A wife who dates her boyfriend publicly has an obligation to her boyfriend, her husband and even herself to dress the part.
How a woman dresses is only one of the many ways women have allowed their sexuality to be repressed.”If you have it – flaunt it” serves as a reminder that your physical appeal to males has always been intended to be a primary means of self-expression and it’s even more so for a hotwife.
The obvious reason is because she’s a married woman dating outside the marriage and therefore has to compete with other women for his attention, but there are other significant reasons for a hotwife to dress the part:
- Persona – dressing the hotwife role helps remind and reinforce the differences in perspective, behavior and pleasures that being a hotwife brings
- Teasing – being overtly appealing to the men around you teases your husband and affirms not only your role as a hotwife, but his role as your cuckold
- Recruiting – a hotwife is bound by no restriction to have only one lover and by dressing more often as a hotwife, she increases the odds of adding new lovers to her stable
- Submission – when a cuckold couple is in a committed relationship with a Dom, how she dresses can be one of many aspects of her daily life and behavior which she gives control of to their Dom
Every Hotwife Is Sexy
Some wives are very reluctant to dress the part, lacking self-confidence in their appeal to other men. I encourage these women to remember that every woman has the innate ability to attract and arouse the males around her, starting with your husband. When you consciously choose to solicit such arousal and attraction, you open yourself to new perspectives on evaluating potential partners and enable your own self-confidence to grow.
Please Yourselves First
Too many people, women especially, allow themselves to be intimidated into living their lives according to others’ rules. Always remember that the only people whose happiness needs to factor into your decisions are yourself and your husband. If you live your life by others rules, you’re not living your own life and someday, that will bring regret when you look back. if dressing sexy makes you feel good and it thrills your husband, then that’s all that really counts. Of course it should also please your boyfriend, but if it doesn’t, there’s always another boyfriend to be had.
Day To Day
For a lot of wives, dressing the part is often the gateway to being shared. Being shown off, being on display, is the first level of sharing a wife by the husband, or in some cases, by the wife to help introduce the idea to him. But for other wives ,even those who secretly enjoy the idea of being shown off, their submissive nature prevents them from pursuing the idea. For these women, even their husband’s encouragement may not be enough to overcome their inhibitions and anxieties over experiencing something a part of them deeply desires. These couples are in most need of Dom to help them both push their boundaries and take the steps they are too shy to take themselves.
Personally, how a wife dresses is often the first step I take in both exploring her submission and introducing sharing to them as a couple. Even when not dating, I highly encourage hotwives to dress the part 24/7. This is not only homage to your Dom, if you have one, but is a sexy way to experience the lifestyle solo, so to speak. It also reminds both yourself and your husband of your pleasures with other men simply when one takes notice of you dressed as a hotwife.
As with most aspects of this lifestyle, this can be a gradual progression. For wives who commonly wear pants, simply switching to more skirts and dresses is a night and day difference. Leaving an extra button undone on the same blouses she always wears can turn a casual look into an alluring one. When I’m seeing a couple, I will go shopping with them to pick out both casual and dressier items for her to wear in her new role as hotwife. These are things I expect her to wear all the time – not just with me. For couples who are seeing a bull who isn’t that involved or havent’ yet expanded their marriage to include another male, shopping together with the stated goal of expanding her fashion horizons can be very beneficial. Together, you can find a balance between too modest and more than her current level of self-confidence can bear.
Matt, I would agree-especially the point about not looking too trampy. Women monitor how other women evaluate them, the sisterhood can be sharp. So its important to dress a subtle but decisive come on. Greta, one of the ladies I know sums it up so well, ‘you dress to make the right men hard and to make your husband wonder’. Receptivity is a changing thing I think, so a back burner doesn’t always remain so. The right guy who says the right things about her appearance can change much. Women are thrilled then when they remember, ‘and I can play with him if I wish…my husband is so pliable.’ Jezz
My wife and I have been bouncing the idea of cuckolding around for a while now. I’ve documented our path here, on this site. Right now, it’s on the back burner, so to speak. We have approached it from a BDSM angle and so my wife has “played” with another man without me present which opened her eyes to further possibilities. Our latest foray resulted in her getting cold feet at the last moment and leaving her somewhat in limbo about her feelings.
In the meantime, I have expressed to her that if a situation arises where she finds herself suitably attracted to someone, then she has my unconditional blessings to pursue the opportunity. To this end, I’m actively trying to encourage her to wear more overtly stylish clothing as often as possibles and especially at her place of work, thus increasing her appeal to others.
She has already expressed an interest in one external associate who I’m sure would return the interest if my wife made only a little more of her wardrobe…..and of course, demeanour. A confidently dressed woman (without being confidently trampy) is in my experience, quite an aphrodisiac.
It’s intriguing that in other species it is the male who has the flamboyant features and looks. In human kind it is women. Beautiful full breasts, a shapely bottom, long legs and fabulous mane of hair, and all this before we get to a pretty face. It is natural for beautiful women to take pride in their appearance and to dress well. But when they are being serviced by an alpha male and have a husband who submits to the arrangement, then their sexual status goes up further. They are an alpha female and its then right that they dress the part.
Dressing the part here I think means sophisticated sexy. It is easy to dress like a tramp, to look common. But in public, in vanilla society, then I suggest a good look is ‘spoilt bitch’. One of the duties of a reasonably well financed cuck husband is to accent that. Being a cuck can cost a lot in material terms as well as emotional terms. The look puts down women who would compete with her-it accents the fact that her status is to do with her sex appeal. We use perfume to cover up other sexual scents, those that signal status, so now its important to use clothes! The subliminal message is, because of my sex appeal I go with the best. Of course it attracts the attention of other alpha males, but for many bulls that is not a problem. He is proud of her on his arm and he might be inclined to share her on his terms. Having the attention of other alpha males, reminds her cuck husband that she has moved way out of his league. It reinforces his submission to her. So clothes spell sexual power-it is as brutal as that.
There are other situations, the intimate parties, the at home events, where her dress is quite different though. Now, depending on her preferences and needs associated with the cuckold scene, she might indeed dress as the slut. The gear will be very overtly sexual, trampish and perhaps submissive bondage too. Dress is used to a new effect, signalling her submission to her dom and perhaps so much more, her addiction to what he does.
Bulls can be a bit lazy about these things, simply signalling a fad preference. Its then difficult for the hotwife to dress in the right teasing, sensual way. It’s often good to make clothes, their purchase, selection and wearing part of the cuckold lifestyle scene. Simple illustration. I like a woman to subtly signal that she is mine, when we are out and about. I don’t necessarily want to flaunt it with behaviour, I like the fact that we tease others with possibilities-are they together? So I have on two occasions taken my lady and her cuck down town to a jewellers and told the guy that it is time to buy his mistress a Cartier watch like mine. I like fine time pieces and I want a fine lady to wear something fine. But it has to match mine-to create innuendo. Such things work well. The cost of these hurts in the wallet and the fact that the lady wears something so chic all the time, reminds cucky that she has graduated beyond him. Girlfriends wonder, are we an item- it is very sexy for the hot wife. It is practical too, she can signal to her cuck to get lost by simply twisting the watch around her wrist. I do or don’t want you attending me…and no, I don’t deign to explain it. Just read the signal!
Quite detailed thoughts-this is important to me. I wonder what others think?