For nearly all husbands in this lifestyle, being a direct witness to the act of coitus between his beloved and another man is a quintessential experience they want and should experience.
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As with many other aspects of this lifestyle, compromise is called for here. Though many wives are thrilled from the start to enjoy the cock of another man in front of their husband, not all are equally enthused. Some feel overly self-conscious about being watched during the act and therefore deny their cuckold this pleasure. Others, are simply selfish. Yes, selfish.
Even though husbands almost always desire to watch, it’s a double-edged sword. The cuckold wants to watch for one or more of the following reasons:
- It’s very erotic, from a voyeur’s perspective
- It provides visual detail for them when they mentally visualize you with your lover
- it can be the culmination of years of fantasizing
technology and foresight enable this hotwife’s cuckold to witness her coupling remotely.
But, as with most things, there are also elements of watching your wife offer her most intimate pleasures to another man which can be quite difficult:
- Being in the presence of the male the wife has chosen as a sexual superior is very humbling
- Being present invites opportunity for the wife and/or the lover to further exercise the cuckold’s humbling
- The wife has the opportunity to make her husband witness the fruits of his own fantasy which can often be well beyond what he imagined
How often should he get to watch? This is simply a guide and other factors can be taken into account, but as a general rule, for every three times the wife enjoys a sexual experience outside the marriage, one should be witnessed by her husband.
For most cuckolds, little is more precious than being able to clearly imagine in his mind, what it looks like when his wife is with her boyfriend. Of course they will imagine if that’s all they have, but it’s so much more rewarding to know for himself what it looks like when his wife has her small hands wrapped around the cock of her boyfriend in a manner he may have never experienced himself.
Just as it’s selfish for the wife to enjoy her boyfriend privately all the time, it’s just as selfish of the husband to expect to watch every coupling.
Q & A for Wives
Q:What if my boyfriend doesn’t know my husband is aware of our relationship?
A: I don’t recommend this be allowed to continue very long. It’s perfectly acceptable to start out this way, depending on circumstances, but at some point, your boyfriend has to know that your husband is both aware and supportive. Not only does this promote a healthy cuckolding environment, but it also makes the bull aware that someone else is aware of the relationship and makes this more secure for you. But, while the boyfriend remains unaware, your husband can hide in the room/closet or watch through a door left open for such a purpose without the boyfriend knowing the husband is home.
Q: What if my boyfriend just isn’t comfortable
being intimate with me in front of my husband?
A: As I see it, there are only two options:
- Help your boyfriend become accustomed to having your husband present
- Find another bull or an additional bull who doesn’t mind your husband witnessing his exercising of your sex
The bull has a great thing going, doesn’t he? He, too, should compromise. I do agree there are times where the chemistry and pleasure enjoyed with a particular bull who isn’t attuned to the cuckolding idea may be worth keeping anyway, but in those cases I always suggest adding a second bull to the stable or continuing to seek out an even better match.
It’s much easier to find a boyfriend worth fucking than it is a father to your children, a best friend and a husband who is supportive of his own cuckolding. A man experienced with cuckolding couples is likely to already appreciate the benefits of including the husband – a man inexperienced will have to be given the opportunity to learn.
Q: Why would I want to let him watch me?
A: Most of you have already imagined the rush of adrenaline added to the experience by being taken in front of your husband, but there is also a unique feeling of connection and intimacy shared between yourself and your husband while another man is inside you while your husband watches, looks into your eyes and even holds your hand. Cuckolding is a lifestyle a couple is meant to experience together and having your husband watch is by far, the most erotic method of sharing the experience. Often I have linked being allowed to watch to behavior modification or compromises being made by the husband. For example:
- Do you want his support to date your boyfriend publicly?
- Do you want his support to stay overnight with your boyfriend?
- Do you want to tell your best friend about your new lifestyle?
- Maybe you just want more chores done around the house…
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Proper Visual Feeding of Your Cuckold
For many husbands, witnessing other aspects of a wife’s relationship with her boyfriend are just as or even more erotic for them than witnessing the intercourse itself. Though I always recommend a cuckold take an active part in helping his wife get ready to see her boyfriend, simply watching her get ready is an incredibly erotic experience for your cuckold.
Some women are inhibited about being watched by their husband because of the graphic view of someone else entering her – so don’t give him that view. The cuckold doesn’t have to witness his wife’s penetration to see and know her boyfriend is bottoming out inside her.
Public Dating
For wives who are dating, I also encourage allowing your husband to follow along on dates.
This can either be done as a threesome, with you obviously accompanying your boyfriend, or your cuckold can simply show up at the same club or bar and be the fly on the wall.
From the boyfriend’s perspective, having a husband involved can be very rewarding. The more the husband defers to the boyfriend, the more assertive he will be and the more comfortable he’ll be exploring the relationship. For wives not already dating, this is something you should seriously consider. There are many more upsides than downsides for you both and nearly any complication you fear can easily be handled one way or another.
This dynamic is precisely what led me down the path from bull to Dom. For dominant males, it’s a 2 for 1 special getting to experience the husband’s submission as an extension of her submission to me.
Excellent.
I don’t think there’s any golden rule here as cuckold couples have many different ideas on what does it for them. I totally agree with you that a husband can get a lot out of watching; this is the absolute highest point from my own perspective and if denied this, then quite frankly, I’d lose interest rapidly. You mention that 1 in 4 occasions the wife should let the husband watch – again, there is no hard and fast rule, each couple should do what works for them.
The first time that my wife took another man’s cock in a hotel room whilst I was there to watch was, of course, a little bit of an unusual situation for her. However, she realised pretty damn quickly that I seriously enjoyed what happened, and since then I’ve witnessed every one of her fuckings. We like to think that I offer moral support and encouragement by being with her (which to large extent absolves her of any feelings of guilt), and I also offer some form of protection should the Bull (a complete stranger) get a little heavy handed.
I’ve always said that each couple has their own individual needs and will experience this lifestyle in their own way(s). As far as how often the husband should watch – that again, is up to the couple and their bull; my intent was to say that a cuckold should have the right to be present at least some of the time. I’ve known couples where the husband is always present and, sadly, have heard of couples where he’s never allowed to be present. Rarely have I seen or heard of a husband who didn’t want to watch at all, but it’s not uncommon for a wife or her bull to have anxiety about the husband’s presence. It’s my intent to say that this should be (and can be) overcome over time so the cuckold can be more involved as is befitting the role of cuckold. Many wives fail to appreciate the erotic potential of having their husband be a witness to her pleasure and his cuckolding – hopefully the community here can help those wives better appreciate what they have!
yes, I agree each couple has and wants it certain ways, i let mey have her time with her lover and they appreciate it, as I do watching and enjoying it too, and she has an appreciation as well as I do .
I watch my wife get ready for work and I fantasize that she’s going off on a date. I amazed at how many things I thought were silly(helping a wife prep, chasitiy, wearing panties) that turn me on now and I want in the worst way.
what are your thoughts on my wifes first time cuckolding me…should I watch her or give her privacy? i want her to feel comfortable with her lover
Most often, I recommend not watching directly the first time. Even when her lover would be ok with it, often your wife will still be anxious and it’s important for her to become comfortable as his lover before you attend them directly.
In general terms I would let them enjoy their coupling privately at least twice before they make love in front of you.
We have not gotten close to this stage yet but I can tell you me watching my wife is a must.
Steve, now my ex, watched the first time – when he held my hand almost the whole time – and every time after that. I think that, like you Seth, he regarded his being there and watching an essential part of the experience. I think I regarded his presence as reassuring but I guess we can all feel differently about that sort of thing but I think if I’d had a choice in the matter it would have been my choice, too.
I know for me when I was married watching was a small percent of the time. Many of my wifes lovers were not bulls simply men she wanted to have sex with. Most men do not want the husband watching but then that was ok cause I always got to help her ready for a date, often dirve her to the restaurant/hotel, and get the details when she came home. Those times that I did get to watch were just that much more special to me. I agree there is no formula for watching.. but the above was my experience. respectfully…….small mike
After we first married, I asked my lovely wife to have sex with another man as I felt it would ‘spice up’ our marriage and, of course, JJ told me, “I was crazy.” But I continued to encourage her and if you’re truly interested in our development you can google ‘He Likes to Watch Me Dance’ which we wrote together and that tells our history or how we began. Gosh, I just wanted to watch her with another man; I didn’t have the imagination or courage to ask her to have sex with a black man. It was an accident.
However, accidents happen and JJ’s first experience was with a muscular, dark black and very well-endowed African American named Kevin. Their coupling changed our marriage forever. Since that point in time JJ or Janet, whom I dearly love, has had five black lovers and several of them have been with her over three years. I was in the car that first evening with Kevin and Janet in our Yukon in the parking lot of the Intercontinental Hotel on the Dallas North Tollway when she learned what a real man was like.
Incidentally, I took her to Las Vegas to see him on our vacation for two weeks recently and they had a wonderful reawakening together.
When Janet had her first sexual experience with him I thought I was quite the ladies man. I had been with about twenty-five women, perhaps more and I’d satisfied all of them. I had no inkling of what a cuckold was and didn’t care. But today I am the complete cuckold and as one of her lovers said when I went down on her after he had filled her vagina with his thick white semen, “Damn, you sure broke him!” Of course, I sucked his penis as well. I help get JJ ready when she is going out and I’m her chaperone, to an extent for the evening, although her ‘prop’ might be more accurate. I keep losers and white guys away from her and her date. Janet has never had a bull and I don’t wear panties or a dress. I’m a man’s man or I like to think I am. However less than a year after we married Janet insisted that I begin to swallow my semen everytime we had sex. I resisted at first but she was demanding. If I came in her mouth she saved my semen for me and kissed me. If we had intercourse, she sat on my face and I ate my cum out of her while we sixty-nined.
Then we ran into a black friend who we’d known at an alternative night club where we had all been members and she invited Roger to come home with us. He had dated a number of white wives and been with a number of white couples. He told Janet he had a basic rule and he did not want to have sex with her unless she agreed to his rule. She asked him what it was and he told her, “before they were together I would suck his cock and he would ejaculate in my mouth.” This insured him that he would not be too excited for her when they had intercourse. Finally, it showed the wife that her husband was inferior to him and was paying homage to him by sucking his penis. So anything he and the man’s wife did was sanctioned by the husband in advance. Following sex, after I had eaten his semen out of her vagina I would suck his penis until he was hard once more and then he would fuck her again. Roger siad, “This showed them that not only did I advocate their coupling but that I was an obedient cuckold and it was effective in proving to everyone that I was totally humiliated. Today, I suck every black man’s penis before he fucks JJ and then I suck him to hardness after he’s satisfied her. We’ve found black men enjoy watching a young wife’s husband as he silently watches him fucking his wife. In addition, they enjoy watching his wife while she stares in amazement at her husband sucking his black dick. He told her, “He could see a man’s wife lose respect for her husband as she watched her husband suck his dick and lick his balls.” JJ used to call me, “her little cum slut”, but today she calls me, “her little cock slut.”
What a hot story Charley. We are moving slowly in this direction, but you are way ahead, believe me. It must be very hot to change directions like you have and get into the erotic humility of it all.
I have to agree i have sat, and watched my wife holding hands with another man when ot on dates, and found it amazing. As far as i was concerned i wasnt her husband i was there friend to everyone around
Watching-My Experience-Many Emotions-Validation
I find watching, or as it has been put, witnessing to be an important part of cuckolding. First, as has been said, and I totally agree; it allows the wife and her lover to see the cuckolds interest level via his erection. And, the cuckold becomes fully aware that they can see his interest level. No misunderstanding later on. This kind of seals the deal. And, by watching, the cuckold gets a real dose of reality. He was not being fooled. The cuck cannot later say…..”but I did not know you and he were kissing”. Watching allows the cuckold to fully experience things, even if, at times he does not watch. In this way, the cuckold has something to draw on, if and when, he does not watch. And, watching shows the cuckold how his wife actually enjoys being with her lover. He can see her joy. And, he can see for himself how wonderful it is for his wife, to have a lover. As I have watched, I have been engulfed by many emotions; even some discomfort (to put it mildly). And watching helps me move thru these feelings of discomfort while also allowing me some new discomfort. Watching, I think, validates things. It validates how selfish I would be to ask my wife to stop. It validates to my wife and her lover that I want them both to have pleasure. It validates that I feel inferior. By watching, I can experience the emotion of feeling envious about his cock. Although I am straight, I can appreciate his cock by seeing it. Especially, seeing how much better his cock is. And, by watching, I can see the pleasure that it causes my wife. At times, while watching, it may be good for the cuckold not to masturbate. And, at times the opposite may hold true. Whatever the formula, I believe that watching has a real place in cuckolding. Much (or all) of what I have said has been already said. I am just sharing how I have experienced “watching”.