Desire
This is the ultimate desire for nearly all cuckold couples: the wife’s snug sex eagerly welcoming her lover’s bare cock.
For the bull, the desire to seat his cock fully inside her as he spurts is as instinctive as breathing- For the wife, feeling his unimpeded explosion is both an instinctive pleasure and a lifestyle pleasure by offering the most intimate pleasure to another man
- For the cuckold, just knowing of, let alone witnessing a natural coupling between his wife and her lover  will foster the most submissive of emotions
This simple, natural act holds even more meaning for everyone when the intimacy of penetration and/or internal orgasm has been denied to her cuckold.
Reality
Beyond the risk of pregnancy, such couplings contain the risk of sharing much more than DNA. This is, however, a risk that can be largely mitigated with three simple steps:
- testing
- commitments
Testing
Any male considering a role as a bull (or Dom) in a couple’s marriage, should eagerly and willingly consent to providing a recent, full STD panel. It should also be perfectly acceptable for the bull to require the same of the wife to be fair.
I understand that some couples will choose to trust the word of their bull and vice versa – as has happened with me and couples I’ve known, but to fully mitigate risk, test and commit.
Keep in mind that if either of you has had other partners recently, Â you will need to wait the requisite time following those unions to consider a test accurate. In other words, if either of you has had unprotected sex with another partner within the two week waiting period for some tests can detect the presence of things unwanted, I advise to wait the two weeks before even having the panel done. After the panel comes back clean and commitments are made, the real intimacy can be enjoyed.
Commitment
I’ve spoken before about the gift of exclusivity with a lover and how extended or indefinite commitments of sexual exclusivity between wife and lover can bring rich rewards for all involved, but another reason to consider such an agreement is to entice her lover into being equally committed. This way, as you move forward together, only their genitals will co-mingle, ensuring everyone’s continued good health.
Expanding The Stable
As long as any additional participants make the same commitments and follow the same procedures, there’s no reason the circle cannot be expanded. This allows the bull to also service other couples, but more importantly, allows the wife to add another lover or two to her stable to ensure variety and availability as needed.
Communication and procedure are key to ensuring the most dangerous risks are mitigated properly so reality and desire can coexist.
Proof Is In The Pudding
For many husbands, seeing the proof of his wife’s extramarital coupling in the form of her lover’s semen present inside her is an essential experience. For many wives, showing her husband that proof is also a thrill that cannot be easily reproduced by other means.
Being a witness to the sight of your wife’s swollen sex still obviously leaking the passion deposited there by her lover does not require that the cuckold interact with that pudding, but for those couples where doing so is an integral and intimate part of the experience, this testing is an absolute requirement, in my opinion.
Getting Tested
Getting your test through your usual doctor can be more of a violation of your lifestyle privacy than you’d like. Not having to deal with the questions, even unvoiced, about why you’d need such a test from your healthcare professionals is something most want to avoid and likely why more couples and bulls aren’t providing each other with this validation as they should.
www.tstd.org
I am in no way affiliated with this service, but it was recommended to me when researching options for testing and I have found it to be reasonably priced and much more easy to work with than using a ‘clinic’ or my own health care provider.
Now go on – get tested and make commitments to your lover!
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While I’ve only had two real ‘boyfriends’ per se, my experience with each was different: My first, Christopher, preferred safe sex and so we used condoms. My second, a grad student named Sanjay, felt it very important to go bare and inseminate me, as he did his prior single girlfriends. Since my husband Peter and I previously agreed that these decisions would be decided by me and my boyfriend, Sanjay inseminated me at night and again in the morning during his overnight stays. As my relationship with Sanjay became intense, the three of us agreed that Peter should begin using condoms again. We did get tested, and the pregnancy risk was omnipresent, as Sanjay was a heavy shooter and very fertile. But insemination did deepen our relationship in a way I hadn’t expected.
Trust is the big issue for successful cuckolding. This goes all around. The first thing noted to wannabes is that the husband and wife need to have open communication and complete trust for this to be successful. However, this is also required between the wife’s prospective lover and herself as well as between him and her husband. A big part of that trust is forged through an eager willingness to be tested and share the results. This also provides an initial rush to all three, particularly the cuckold. This paves the way and, because there is the burden of expense, effort, and deeply personal revelation, the point of objections has passed. Because the effort was much more, the expectation of sexual intimacy is higher than disrobing and getting into bed.
We need to note that this has always been the highest hurdle for us in meeting and committing to a new bull. As we don’t even have herpes (and don’t want it) and do realize many sexually active people do, it is harder. HSV and HPV are two that are not fully protected against by condoms and can be transmitted via oral sex as well. They also are not part of the typical STI panel. The HSV testis not as reliable as others too. This is a case where the self-awareness and trust/honesty is paramount. It’s best to get that out of the way before the intimacy begins, as some people can unexpectedly become consumed with post-coital worrying.
As long as the woman feels safe with her lovers bare back, she should enjoy that pleasure. As for her cuckold that should be a wonderful pleasure for him to see and know his woman is indeed getting what she deserves from her lovers. The tasty treat her cuckold gets is a special gift that he will appreciate even if he claims he does not like the idea. A cream-pie is physical proof your woman is sexually satisfied, what can be better than that? Every drop represents her happiness. Her sexual freedom is what its all about. If she makes her lover use a condom, the cuckold must carefully remove that from her lover, lick him clean and then with both as witness the cuckold must suck the condom inside out to show his respect the her lover and his woman. He must thank the lover and thank his women. This must be seen as a cuckolds duty to please and respect his woman and not be looked at as disrespectful in anyway. Thank you, Glenn
The Two Barometers – Deep Kissing and the Erection
Under “Desire” Luvr shows us (photo) the wife deep kissing her Bull during intercourse. It seems that if an erection is the barometer for how the cuckold is really feeling; then, the kiss is the barometer how the wife is really feeling. After my wife finally agreed, after I begged her for a year, I watched as she kissed her new-found lover. And I watched as she and he were engaged in a long French kiss while locked in intercouse. The woman I love was with another man. It felt so terrible. The woman I love was with another man. It felt so exciting and so very stimulating and hot and humiliating. All at the same time. While her kissing with her lover showed that she enjoyed this betterman; my penis was fully erect, and attached to me with my very my mixed emotions. My wannabe cock, my penis, spoke volumes about my primary emotion. How I really felt. And in between kisses my wife keep telling her lover “I love your cock” (or a variation of this). And then she continued with her tongue deep in his mouth. My penis was hard as a rock, and, as was said on this site by it’s creator, the penis tells the truth.
And so has the “truth revealing” deep kissing that my wife is sure to always engage in, while with a man, well, except when she is with me. The truth be told!
Excellent points, goodview.
I wholeheartedly agree with all that is said above. I’d also add that in my experience the act of the testing cn also provide a genuine erotic thrill for the cuckold. Case in point, my wife’s second lover was a colleague with whom she flirted for many months and gradually began seeing socially, albeit without a sexual component initially. I asked her, of course, to keep me apprised of the progress of their relationship along the way, and she noted that she could not predict in advance whether or when it might become physical.
One night, while she was at an after work dinner with this gentleman, I was looking for something on her desk and uncovered the results of an STD test–his. I trembled in shock and anger, because I had thought our compact was that she would advise me when they had become lovers, and this seemed to me to indicate that they had, and that she was now concerned about her lover’s cleanliness.
When she arrived home late that night I confronted her about it. She sat me down and explained that no, she and Conrad had not made love. She said they were very attracted to one another, and that the connection was heating up, and that they had in fact shared a couple of heavy kissing and petting sessions. No, she said, his fingers had not yet been inside her, and definitely not his cock.
Why, then, I asked, had he provided her with results from an STD test, conducted just 9 days earlier? She smiled gently at me and explained that Conrad had volunteered to have the test done, so that if and when they did become lovers, she would not have to worry about that particular administrative concern.
I said to her “he seems awfully sure of himself, doesn’t he?”
And Stacey’s reply was, “he has good reason to be confident, honey,” and smiled at me.
Good advice. The exchange of body fluids is an important part of the experience for all the participants. Without that, the intimacy is never fully realized. With some common sense precautions, there is probably less risk with bareback sex than there is going to visit a sick relative in your local hospital.