
The only thing more erotic than enjoying a submissive is enjoying a submissive wife – in front of her husband.
I am a single, but not unattached male who has been involved in promoting and actively enjoying the D/s lifestyle, as applies to cuckolding, since this website was first established in 1996.
I have personally trained and enjoyed a half dozen couples and coached countless others in learning about themselves, their submissive nature, and their role within BDSM and/or cuckolding. To get some more background on why I established this website, check out the About Page.
Who’s in charge around here?! I am!
A common issue among couples is role confusion. When the wife wants the husband to take control, especially sexually – and the husband secretly wants his wife to do the same, they have a problem. As a Dom, I establish and maintain the trust that enables providing that leadership. It’s difficult to explain to someone still entirely outside the experience, but for so many husbands it’s terribly erotic for them to see their wife respond for another male in what can only be described as an obedient fashion.
I was essentially recruited into this lifestyle by a couple who took interest in me as perhaps the guy who could make one of their long-standing fantasies a reality. They were no more experienced in this than I was, but our instincts and natural curiosity served us all well. By my third couple, I was comfortable and confident in a leadership role with a couple.
Our Greatest Erogenous Zone: the Mind
Where the mind goes, the body follows. What sets a hotwife/cuckold marriage apart from other forms of non-monogamy is the level of intellectual and emotional involvement making it well beyond a simple opportunity for casual sex. This is anything but casual.
Lay Analysis
When presented with something that seemed so counter intuitive, I found myself needing to be able to explain it to myself and to others I hoped to encourage along this path. I have no degree in psychoanalysis, sociology, or even biology, but I believe the dots of our reality can be logically connected without such a background. In fact, I would posit the theory that said education, aka indoctrination, can blind us all to what’s right in front of our noses.
Using observation, my formal training an analysis, research, and personal experience, I have slowly peeled away the the outer and inner mysteries of what motivates couples and those involved with them to be interested in and gravitate toward this experience. This site is about what I’ve learned over the last twenty years.
Coach, Mentor
Though I have not become personally involved with a local couple in a few years now, I do continue to be very active in coaching and mentoring couples toward and through the complexities of a hotwife/cuckold marriage. This include pre-marital couples who have the necessary bond and commitment to each other to make this work.
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hi, newbies here looking for guidance and education. as hubby (cuck) i have introduce her to the concept of cuckolding. she shes she will cuckold me because she loves me. i put her on cam to expose her to bulls but i got this far now i need a bull/dom to take her training the rest of the way. again we cam on yahoo as mwc4cuckolding sure could use your help in anyway you see fit , thank you
I’m not really sure where we really stand on this. I think that there have to be degrees of cuckoldry. We were married for 35 years before my wife ever considered sex with other men. She’s been wih 5 other men now and although there was some need for adjustment, it has been a really good thing for our marriage.
She is very submissive but I have always been an alpha male. Unfortunately at 60 years old, we both realize she needs some younger men or any guy who can go the distance to truely satisfy her needs. We do have great sex together and there is no way we want to get into me being inactive sexually. I see no need since the more she gets fucked the more she wants to fuck. At the same time, if i cum too often, I can’t fuck her for several days. For that reason, I try not to cum. So often, I have to slow down trying not to cum but her body writhes with need.
Anyway, I just have to say you did a really nice job with your site. Your discussion is intelligent and I’m certain it all makes perfect sense for a lot of people. I just don’t think I ever want to be submissive myself or celebate. We had great sex for over an hour last night and again this morning and hopefully more later. But I know that since I can’t let myself cum to often, I can’t drive her all the way the the edge she loves so much. In some ways, I wind up just warming her up for another guy who can cum in her in a mutual orgasm (so far always with a condom).
It’s comforting to me that there are other people who enjoy the arrangement of the hotwife getting nailed by another guy often even though the husband doesn’t need other women. Incidentally, my wife hates the terms cuckold and bull and neither of us want to see either of us humiliated, belittled or least of all eliminated from the sex. At the same time, she is so hot with a dom bull. It’s been amazing. She was always completely unable to deep throat at all. then one day a guy layed her on her back with her head hanging over the edge and he fucked her throat for about a half hour. It was amazing to watch. We have also had difficulty with her being so enthusiastic about a guy that he was all she thought about and I didn’t get laid for a while. It pissed me off but I now understand and accept when that happens. I just don’t want it to be all the time.
Dear Luvr,
I am contacting you as a wannabe cuckold to my wife Barbara, along with the thousands of other men who desire this dynamic in their marriage. My question is in regards to your writings on discipline spankings. While you are spanking the wife, I understand that the cuckold is likely to be naked and observing without being allowed to touch himself. TORTURE, indeed! However, when you decide to spank the husband instead, what is the dynamic there. Is she watching also naked? Could you elaborate a little when you have the time? Thanks,
JohnBoy