Hi we are in SE London. My wife has a lover and I am fine with that but I feel excluded from their relationship and that isn’t what I thought this would be about. I am not happy with how this has gone. I have met him a few times but neither of them are OK about including me or even talking about it to me.
I don’t know how you feel about how much the man in a couple can be involved?
Thank you for that. I’m not sure I’m sub I mean I don’t want to be involved when they have sex but just ‘normal’ things like having him come in after a date or coming round and having dinner together and being happy for her if they want to go upstairs. Our daughter accepts her mum has a boyfriend but I think she picks up on my unhappiness.
It would make it more normal if we could all go things together but keeping private things private.
Well I’m sorry to hear that, it sounds far from ideal. Far be it from me to interfere but it might be a situation where you have to make it clear to her how you feel. Not that I’m any kind of expert!