Reply To: 'Something new'

Gracie, I’m so grateful. You are so far ahead of me, but there are really useful pointers here. I definitely do not want to be replaced as a lover – that was not what happened before we were married, though that must be a possibility. I do understand that C needs/should have more than me, and in a way I need to signal that I know how lucky I have been to have had her to myself all these years. The idea that she should have multiple lovers to avoid he getting attached to one is blowing my mind. As is the possibility of telling the kids.