Reply To: Need some pointers for the next step

I agree with the other commenters that in some relationships it is better to have the lady be alone with a lover the first time. Each couple is unique in this, and they custom design their desires on what they want to do. I have also told couples that having the wife be alone with another man at times is very important so she can be uninhibited, free and wild with a man. This allows her to open up more and not feel she is under pressure to perform for her husband. For some women, especially at first, she is subconsciously under pressure and inhibited as her husband watches. She will subconsciously feel she should control her passions since her husband is watching. This means she can’t truly open up and be herself and she is holding back a wide variety of emotions. What the husband wants and needs is for her to eventually open up to the lover and be free with her actions and emotions. So, the more she lets go and is focused on the lover, the better it is for everyone.