Re: Strict, Experienced Dom in Raleigh, NC

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     Your acceptance of chastity training is a good step toward fully engaging your place as a submissive in this lifestyle. Bfore you are placed in chastity I want you to begin with strict limitations on physical contact with your penis. This should be enforced by your Domme Wife and initially will include you no longer standing when you urinate. You don’t have a Cock, you have a penis so there is no reason you should be standing anyway. This will limit your own contact with it, and will be extended further by your Domme no longer touching you with her bare skin either. The denial of contact will heighten your sensitivity to both touch of any kind, and to your own emotions and thoughts as you experience a dynamic of restraint and restriction in your role as a submissive cuckold. Until told otherwise this also includes masturbation and orgasm denial. Completely.

      Handcuffs are a fine choice, but a better choice would be a set of well made leather bondage cuffs for your ankles and wrists. Handcuffs offer their own unique aesthetic and you should purchase them, but they do no offer the versatility of restraint techniques that leather cuffs offer. Look for a set that is of heavy gauge leather, with solid metal fixtures. This will do for now. Your restraint will increase over time, but for now like the concept of chastity where you are denied even the sensation of an erection, in restraints you will be denied freedom of movement which has its own emotional/mental impact on a submissive and therefore should be entered into in ways that allow for you as a submissive to fully engage what these acts will stir up inside of you.

      For now, I have no expectations other than that you follow these simple instructions, and submit to how your Domme holds you accountable to your submission to these beginning standards. A specific instruction for Her is that she, in her own creative way, spend a portion of each day bringing you to full arousal without coming into bare skin contact with you while you take those moments as opportunities to develop your self discipline to be her submissive without faltering.

    I am 5,10″ 175, Runners Build, workout six days a week, WM, 8″ length X 6.5″ circumference. I offer my apologies for not replying to your post until now. I often travel for work and occassionaly I am limited in my net contact.