Strict, Experienced Dom in Raleigh, NC

nm4u,

      I am accustomed to knowing my cuckolds and Wives more personally, but without that personal knowledge I can say that as a standard I approach my role as a Dom in such a way that creates space and opportunity for you as a cuckold to fully realize and enjoy your potential as a submissive cuckold to myself and your Wife. In the same way a Hotwife needs the space and opportunity to open up to her potential as a Domme to her cuckold and a sexually vibrant partner to her Dom, a cuckold needs the same opportunity to open up his potential as a submissive to myself and my lover. In a basic way, this would flesh out as a standard that you are expected to be obedient to a fault at all times, and that you will not only be obedient but that creativity on your part in how you express your submission would also be encouraged. This holds true for my approach to training and leading Hotwives to be both Domme to their cuckolds and submissive to me. I treat and view the relationship I have with a couple as a relationship with both the Wife and cuckold. As a Dom I am a leader by nature and that includes leading you to fully engage your place as a cuckold, and your Wife to fully engage her rightful place as my lover.

      Referring to a basic tangible example, you would be trained in submission from every facet, to include your posture and tone of voice when we are together, to your physical acts of submission such as acts of service while my lover and I are together and apart. This would include standards such as when you are in our collective presence or when we feel it appropriate, you will keep you head down and speak only when we are speaking to you directly. In a similar way, a Hotwife should be given encouragement to open herself to her natural feminine strength and sexual vibrancy by being introduced to opportunities to break free from the confines of her cuckold’s sexual inadequacies.  

      You belong in chastity and bondage, and your are drawn to it because it is in your nature as a submissive. Your Wife is obviously deserving of a more sexually capable man, who can both lead and satisfy her at once. It sounds as if you are both on your way to great fulfillment.

nm4u,

     Your acceptance of chastity training is a good step toward fully engaging your place as a submissive in this lifestyle. Bfore you are placed in chastity I want you to begin with strict limitations on physical contact with your penis. This should be enforced by your Domme Wife and initially will include you no longer standing when you urinate. You don’t have a Cock, you have a penis so there is no reason you should be standing anyway. This will limit your own contact with it, and will be extended further by your Domme no longer touching you with her bare skin either. The denial of contact will heighten your sensitivity to both touch of any kind, and to your own emotions and thoughts as you experience a dynamic of restraint and restriction in your role as a submissive cuckold. Until told otherwise this also includes masturbation and orgasm denial. Completely.

      Handcuffs are a fine choice, but a better choice would be a set of well made leather bondage cuffs for your ankles and wrists. Handcuffs offer their own unique aesthetic and you should purchase them, but they do no offer the versatility of restraint techniques that leather cuffs offer. Look for a set that is of heavy gauge leather, with solid metal fixtures. This will do for now. Your restraint will increase over time, but for now like the concept of chastity where you are denied even the sensation of an erection, in restraints you will be denied freedom of movement which has its own emotional/mental impact on a submissive and therefore should be entered into in ways that allow for you as a submissive to fully engage what these acts will stir up inside of you.

      For now, I have no expectations other than that you follow these simple instructions, and submit to how your Domme holds you accountable to your submission to these beginning standards. A specific instruction for Her is that she, in her own creative way, spend a portion of each day bringing you to full arousal without coming into bare skin contact with you while you take those moments as opportunities to develop your self discipline to be her submissive without faltering.

    I am 5,10″ 175, Runners Build, workout six days a week, WM, 8″ length X 6.5″ circumference. I offer my apologies for not replying to your post until now. I often travel for work and occassionaly I am limited in my net contact.

nm4u,

It is pleasing to hear that you have taken the step of accepting and embracing chastity. This is important and should be recognized. Understand that I have been away on business and have had limited connectivity with the net, as such I understand when there are delays in response time. Know that should this progress into anything more serious, I will expect timeliness on your part in responding, and will guarantee timeliness on my part.

For now, you will continue with orgasm denial, but I want you to add a new element to this training. When you are in your home, you are to be caged and pantied at all times. This will give you the opportunity to begin to assume not only a more submissive role, but also one which is marked by open symbols of your committment to your place as a cuckold. Be proud of this, and enjoy the experience. This is a sign that you are developing in your place very well.

cplnmbsc,

I am back around, unfortunately after having had to step away for quite a long time due to work. I am very much real and would be happy to share a drink downtown if you are ever interested, but I met a couple in the area this past summer and have been seeing them the past three months. Best wishes,

SD