Do you ever take a step back?

We go back and forth between adventures and just the two of us. Probably a bit more the two of us for the moment than I wish, but things has not lined up well for us lately.

Other couples may go full throttle, but not us. The constant change is a driving factor for us. And too much of one thing becomes bored in the long run…. do you think you keep enjoying cake if you eat it every day? Probably not

My wife went full throttle for about the first two years of us entering the lifestyle. I couldn’t blame her, lol. We had been monogamous for well over 20 years and she was finally getting to experience what good sex was really like. Granted, there were a few men that didn’t perform very well, but those were just a few.

After those first two years, she started throttling back. She keeps in touch with a few of the guys, that were her favorites, and sees them occasionally.

Thanks to COVID, its been months since she’s spent any time with them. Although, she does communicate with them, pretty much, everyday.

Depending on how you live this lifestyle, I think it provides natural breaks. My wife dates other men. It’s that simple. So, she meets men no different than a single woman would.

What my wife and I really seek is a full-time, live-in bf. She and I, both, would love to try a long-term triad or polyamorous relationship (whatever that is called).

She has had a few bf’s that she and I, both, got along with very well. They stayed many nights a week with us and the three of us would share one bed. It was awesome. She loved the consistent (almost daily) sex she was having with her bf and I loved letting the two of them be exclusive for as long as possible.

Hopefully we will find the right guy someday to be a live-in.

No not really. Once I exposed this lifestyle to my partner its like a switch was turned on in her. In fact thats what she told me herself and she enjoys the attention. To her its like a party at the end of the week that she looks forward to.

She has a number of guys that she sees, sometimes in a group setting and other times one at a time. Due to COVID the group stuff has stopped but she arranges ‘dalliances’during the day during her lunch breaks.

As I really enjoy her catching up with guys and giving me the lowdown on what happened, how often and who with, the excitement is amazing so neither of us have considered taking a break

Same for us. When she first became a Hotwife she was fucking other men once a week usually one of four men she enjoyed at the time. Its been 10 years enjoying this lifestyle and she fucks another man probably once every 6 weeks or even less.
It has more to do with finding good longterm men. Its just like dating as a single woman.

It would be nice to have a longterm boyfriend fir her but I fulfill that role as her husband. Not complaining at all.
We love each other very much and our relationship is the core to our lives.

Hello Coffee,
Do you even join your wife and friend for MFM or is it just her alone with him?
My wife and I started out as swingers swapping wives but that is really a MFMF group sex scene with women engaging in bisexual activities while the men fuck them. Its all good and everyone strives to include each other and make sure every one orgasms.

We progressed to playing with single men and having MFM because she enjoys all the attention and playing with two cocks at once.

Then to her having solo dates.
We still have MFM fun which helps me with the anxiety but I love it all. The sluttier she is the better I feel.