Finally Told My Wife, She is hurt by what I said

she was probably thinking it Was simple role play .not expecting a real desire to emerge. yes. many will and do think its a rejection of them and possibly an excuse to bed other women.
hard to get past initial shock for many wive whom put up barriers. not talking openly. is not ideal for long term relationships.
ideally you need a wife whom has found herself in same situation but gone on from that to chat to her.answer questions etc.
that is not going to be easy to find!

I was checking your profile, to find out more things about you two, but nothing found. I understand both of you are in your late 40’s and this is really a nice age. I think you are wise enough and your marriage is secure enough so you can speak freely with your wife In my opinion, no any wife will ever accept from the beginning that she enjoy having better sex with another guy, or feeling as a slut doing this, but as it said , in any woman is a hidden slut. In my opinion , you have to provoke her to an honest discussion, and explain her clearly, that you are not interested in having sex with another woman, and only because you love her very much, you want her to have the best sex possible. And as long as she is happy and satisfied, you will be VERY happy, and very excited. You may be surprised at her reaction, if she will understand how serious you are, and that you speak from your heart. But, as I said, is just an opinion. Best of luck.

surprised no more offering input. not an easy place to be as emotive and can and will affect relationships. many wives given time .opportunity can cuck a husband if right man comes along . you will often see women doing so if a man is famous.powerful etc a these are very high turn on’s. some men go for enter live with no rules while others get supposed months or even years down the line with a sudden sexual awaking by wife.
since you have. let cat out of bag we can only deal with what we find occurs as she digest it or set it aside in her mind for now. she will not forget!
many can once given that idea of free to have another man without ramifications slowly. change attitudes a drop inhibitions to play with thought. and in some cases but not all, decide to dip toe in water.
here is where having her meet.chat to lot’s of men and ideal contact physically such as dancing..can offer best potential for you. encourage her to go swimming .dancing lessons.gym even evening classes. do tell her se looks fit .sexy and attractive. all females need that feeling they are wanted. by suggesting she goes with another man we have in a way rejected her… feeling that ” how can you love me” will surface. all needs to be dealt with as it merges. constantly reassure her you adore her. flowers now and again etc surprise events ? theatre etc. where she has. an interest. we want her to realise you do in fact love her deep even if we are ‘flawed’ in that we. would be happy for her to find a better man in bed now and again.

Take your time. Do not push her. Women need security and stability and to know they are loved and desired. We had been together for over 20 years when I first brought it up. We had always had a FML but the when I first brought up her taking a lover for her sexual satisfaction she got pissed at me and thought I wanted another woman. Even though I had developed ED problems and knew I was no longer satisfying her the way she deserved it still took a few years of talking and role playing and her finally meeting a man she was attracted to and who let it be known he was attracted to her, before she finally asked if I was serious and wanted to give it a try to see how we both would react to her actually dating another man.