Good luck! Your description is EXACTLY what we have found for my wife. Polite, great conversationalist, not in a rush, happily married but deficient on sex at home, had done this with one other couple for years before they relocated, and the very best part is he is very well endowed. You may not want someone too close as neighbors/acquaintances begin to put things together. Ours is 70 miles away and its a perfect monthly engagement.