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I can understand your initial feeling, but in truth, you knew before that she enjoyed sex with several others before marrying you, and that feeling in her has never abated. What you need to do now is accept reality. Convert your jealousy into arousal. When you start feeling jealous, do some channeling by thinking of how satisfying it will be for her and how arousing it will be for you to watch it.

Gracie, Chick with a Dick and total cuck

Wow that was a quick response!

I do understand the strong feeling of jealousy. That is a natural reaction with many cucks. But keep in mind that jealousy is a very destructive force. It can become extremely damaging to a relationship if not kept under control. You MUST keep it under control and convert it to arousal.

What you first need to do is sit down with your wife and discuss it. Let her know you do have feelings of jealousy but you will do your best to keep it entirely under control. Let her know that you fully understand that she needs much more than what one guy can give her, and that you “accept” that. Notice I said “accept” as it is not your place to “approve” but only to accept her decision

Then talk to her about what she views as some ground rules. For example, is she going to have one lover or many? Personally, I do believe it is much better for YOU if she has many, as her “attachment” to lovers is spread over many and is not concentrated on just one guy. So, in that discussion, if I were you, I would encourage her to have many.

As a part of that discussion, talk about what she wants your role to be. Will you be watching? If not, will you get reports after wards. Will you be allowed to fuck her after she has been fucked by others? Will you be allowed any pussy at all?

So as clearly as possible, define both of your roles. Agree that the rules for the roles are flexible and subject to change upon further discussion as you each experience more.

At the end of your response, you ask some important questions. How do you keep it from the kids, for example. You can make an effort to keep it from them, but my feeling is that it is better to be open about it with them. You can either wait to discuss it with them after then discover it, or talk aobut it before hand. You will be surprised at how understanding and accommodating most kids will be once they hear the full situation. For example, you can explain that their mom needs more personal attention then just you can give her, and so they will see some of her boyfriends coming over and spending the night.

As far as a long term relationship with a boyfriend or just occasional flings, that really depends on what she needs. My take is that it is likely to be a mixture of the two, like one or two long term bfs and also some flings.

Will it be strangers or guys you know? It is generally safer to go with guys you all know. But that could be harder for you to accept. That is something that needs to be discussed with her.

Finally, you asked if you will get to fuck her. As I said already, have that discussion. My strong belief is that a submissive cuck should NOT be allowed any pussy. You had mentioned that she is the dominate sexual partner, making you the submissive. If she decides you should not get any pussy (it is her choice and not yours) then discuss the rules under which you can be provide relief. For example, will you be allowed to jack off at will, or only after she as been fucked or only while watching her or just what. In my own case, to set an example, I am allowed to cum ONLY when there is a black cock fucking my ass. That makes me more feminine and submissive, btw.

Please let us all know how it goes.

Gracie, feminized cuck, chick with a dick

You are welcome. I really do believe it is better to have multiple lovers. My wife has a great many and we both love that she does. If one gets too demanding of her to become exclusive to him or becomes uncomfortably possessive, and that does happen, it is easy for her to dump him as she has plenty of others to satisfy her.

As far as kids, they are very adaptable It is surprising just how much they can adapt to this kind of situation. The key here, however, as you BOTH continue to stay together and interact with the kids as you normally would, and appear to be very happy with this lifestyle in front of them, showing them that you both are happy. It is when unhappiness is shown or or there appears to be a great deal of tension that there are problems with the kids. So you must avoid that at all cost.

How do you tell the kids? It can be very simple. Adjust what you tell them according to their maturity level, however. A simple statement such as, “Hey kids. Mom is going to start having some boyfriends come over. I am perfectly okay with that.”

If need be, you can expand that with statements that there may be nudity in the house at time, and emphasize that is normal and okay, or that you may be in panties or girly nighties at times to do role play, etc. Don’t go overboard with explaining at first. Let it sink in, then let them ask questions. But be HONEST with the answers. For example, if asked if that means mom is having sex with her boyfriends, be very honest about it.

Gracie

Taz, please provide an update or contact me.

Gracie

Hey Taz, that is great that she is determined to take a lover, and is considering multiple lovers. She is concerned there aren’t enough suitable men, but I suspect she will find more than she anticipates.

I know you are worried about where this will lead but just roll with it and adapt.

Please keep me informed.

Gracie

Having some of the same issues and struggles as we head down the path. Nikki has only been with me, married 21 years. Considering a bf OR multiple lovers – either way something regular and not a one time thing. Two daughters at home and we’ve started talking about if/when/what they will know (basically do we consider hosting or not) and we’re talking about my role going forward. The big one weighing on me is over the condoms issue and what we do on that. I’m glad and encouraged to see others walk through the same concerns and talking about it on here has helped some for it to feel ‘normal’ and work through my anxieties.

David, what you are feeling is certainly normal for a cuckold to go through when first starting out. To use condoms or not is always her choice, and depends on who her lover is, past history with him, whether or not there is a medical report giving him a clean bill of health, etc.

The cuckold lifestyle is much more common than many people would suspect, especially if you include those who have been cucked but don’t know it. i’ve seen reports that up to 40 percent of wives cheat. I doubt it is that high, maybe 20 percent or so, but cuckolding is not uncommon.

Should you consider hosting? Yes, absolutely. It makes living the lifestyle so much easier. Be all means, host.

Gracie – Chick with a Dick

Taz, thank you so much for the update. I have been wondering how it was going for you.

When you were out for dinner and discussed the various men, did she settle on the type of man she would like to fuck?

What are you going to do next? What is the plan for finding a guy like your wife likes?

With her approval, if you come across a guy you believe she might like, you might want to show the guy some nude pics of your wife in order to capture his attention. BTW, if you don’t know the guy ahead of time, ALWAYS meet in a safe place first, but you and your wife, and the guy. Once your wife decides she likes him, then set some ground rules, such as you will always be present and you will do the clean up., etc. Whatever ground rules the two of you decide on.

I strongly suggest you do this as quickly as possible, before she has a chance to have second thoughts.

Gracie

Taz, I can understand that YOU might want to slow things down, as it is making YOU nervous. But remember, this is about her and for her. You need to demonstrate to her how eager you are to help her. Do the things that are necessary to make this happen without slowing down.

Always express to her how much you love her and how HAPPY you are that she is going in this direction. She wants to involve you, so don’t make her regret that decision. Express your love for her verbally and in any other way you can think of.

My wife is black only and she requires that I be as well, so I have a natural preference for others to go black. If the man she saw that is black fits the bill for her, then go for it!

Gracie

Do keep us updated. I’d like to see how this progresses.

Agree, please keep us updated.

It is hard accepting the fact that your wife prefers sex with someone else and you have to be content with masturbation. It’s worse if she watches and you know she is comparing. It makes you feel less of a man and an inadequate husband.
If there are children at home and they know or suspect you need to keep their respect as their dad and as a good male role model.
Be supportive of their mum’s (maybe unusual) lifestyle buying lingerie is a great idea. If she’s going out comment on her appearance ‘Isn’t mum looking great. Have a fantastic time’. If your children are young and he is visiting ‘Mummy has to talk to her friend privately’. If they are older do an activity together as a’proper’ dad and if they’re still up when he leaves let them see you are happy that he is mum’s friend.
They will understand and respect you.

@Taz. In my opinion, we have no right in denying our wives/ partners, a good sex life, whether that be with one boyfriend or many. Just because one is married, doesn’t automatically mean that our wife or partner has to be sexual with us. It’s her body and if she choses to enjoy another man coupling her then we as cuckold husbands are obligated to accept and support her decision.
If our cock doesn’t satisfy her then she should find sexual relief elsewhere.
A part of being a cuck husband is being denied sexually and the wonderful emotions that gives, Those feelings far outweighs the downside of never being able to fuck her again.
I love our lifestyle and openly brag about it to our family and friends.

I haven’t told our friends about our ‘arrangement’but she has told a friend and now I get that pitying look when she comes over. It’s not a good feeling but I have to accept that. Our daughter knows something is going on but she knows not to talk about it. I feel that’s very adult of her. It’s about empowering women and that’s a good thing for her to learn as she grows up. I’m still her dad and can show her that a man can do domestic stuff too.

I’m enjoying your journey Taz, any updates?