What is my sexuality?

There are bound to be a large number of opinions and takes on your situation. But this is just mine. We have so many ways to look at life and sexuality, hopefully mine does something to help assist with yours.

I believe it is normal, and natural for some cuckolds to feel this way. While I don’t know your exact situation, I can give you what I have learned from my own journey.

You have become more accepting that you are a cuckold, and some cuckolds either lose desire to fuck their wives, as they believe they cannot please them. Knowing this, it makes it very difficult for a cuckold to enjoy fucking their wife, BECAUSE they love them. It is rooted in you that you can’t please her, and her pleasure is tied to yours. What is the point of fucking her if she can’t enjoy it as much as you? How can you enjoy it if she doesn’t? Kind of see how the cycle might work?

Onto the bull in the scenario.

First of all, the obvious thing. There is nothing wrong with being bisexual. It’s an option, and a possible part of you, and that is totally fine!

When you blow him, when he fucks you, it is mutually enjoyable. Much like the experience your wife has with him, both parties are bonding in a mutually beneficial sexual way. Their sexual bond fuels you, this is something you already likely know. It’s possible your infatuation, and ultimate enjoyment with him is partially due to what he brings to the table for your relationship. Getting a little extra personal enjoyment out of him for yourself is totally fine too!

It’s sexy! He is an important cornerstone for your situation, and so long as this works for you and your wife, I see no harm in it.

Sexual labels exist for society to judge you, try not to dwell on it. You like pleasure, and that’s all that matters, how you get it doesn’t matter (so long as it’s consensual, fair to you and your partner, and it’s fun.).

That, and you can successfully please a cock, and it sounds like you enjoy it! So shit, embrace it! Your wife certainly is!

I find it helpful to remember that we are on this path because cuckolding is a unique, sensible, and sexy orientation for us. I’m not well endowed, I’m submissive, and I cannot fill the roll that a male who likes to be dominant can. In fact if I tried, not only would it not be enjoyable, or believable for either of us, but it would result in the death of our sex life. I believe what you are experiencing, is just enough step on your cuckold journey.

To answer bluntly, I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal, and I say keep enjoying yourself! He is an important component to your sexual life, and it’s something you are both blessed to have.

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Sorry if my response/answer was not very direct.. But I don’t think we can simply be defined by filling in a bubble on a form. But if it makes it easier.. I’d probably think from what you described as being a bisexual cuckold. And I think that’s a pretty sexy thing to be!

All the best!
Stay happy and healthy!

I think what you are feeling is perfectly normal to show this bond with your wifes lover. It confirms your respect and admiration for his ability sexually and that you want to be submissive to him and please your wife. After cleaning creampies you have become addicted top him and now want to get his semen direct. Share him and be happy.

I think your feelings are pretty normal. Considering the whole situation, containing so much sexual proceedings, developments over time. What did you expect from yourself? Stay where You once were? For ever? So You taste the bi side now, tomorrow maybe you are into sissy stuff?
I think, as long as your walk on the wild side is OK for Your wife (& Bull), it should be OK for you too.

When I was about 12 or 13 y/o I sucked the cock of a 18 y/o friend. I am not and never have been gay or bi. Never sucked a cock again, never became aroused by any gay stuff since. Same as you: only girls, boobs, cunts.
But hey, sucking his cock was fun! Strictly speaking this may have been sexual abuse, but I had fun, it did no harm to me. I am not very touchy in sexual things.

Today I can imagine very well to suck a cock again! Not because I changed from straight to bi or gay or whatever, but simply because of my sexual submission. Voluntary I never ever would suck a cock similar to my looser-cocks state. That would not meet my submissive feeling. But if my Wife would give order, I would do!

So keep on reflecting yourself but IMHO Your feelings are not unusual and if the would be, so what 😉 Cuckolding is unusual too.
You can put Your mind at rest.

Thanks for sharing, Dan.
I agree with previous comments. Discover what you like and learn to be ok with who you are.
You have realized you are submissive.
You enjoy ‘making love’ to your wife.
You also like watching her fuck other men especially if they have a big, hard cock. And when you watch you identify with the submissive receiver of the Alpha cock and his sperm. You identify with being appreciative of the Alpha. You identify with being on your knees – Alpha cock appreciation.
But I suspect it’s not just about the Alpha cock for you. It sounds like you would like to be an ‘owned’ couple. You are interested in submitting to an Alpha leader. You want him to make the decisions, to watch out out for you and your wife. You want him to take control of you, to cum in you as evidence of your transfer of power and control to him. Who knew we would desire to watch another man fuck our wives?
Who knew submitting to being penetrated by our wife’s Alpha lover would be something we would desire? I would never have thought so before. But it rings true. Embrace it.

Congratulations on being open to discovering who you are and not just accepting what society deems you should be.

Consider communicating more of what you’d like to your wife. Ask her what she desires? In what ways could he become more integrated with your family? key to your home? vacation together? can they publicly date?

Consider communicating with the Alpha male, too. It’s not a gay thing, but an appreciative cuckold thing. Not a ‘you complete me’ but a ‘you complete us (you and your wife)”.

Might you and your wife enjoy being owned? Might he like to lead the two of you?

I don’t worry too much about labels either…I know I am a beta and I know that I admire Alphas…submitting to them is natural for me..if that means sexually that is true submission..in front of my wife would be ultimate submission and ultimate admission of our relationship…and the ultimate cuckold relationship where all 3 are involved..

I agree with Allistan, we are born to live life to its fullest despite the “rules” imposed by society. I am in 24/7 chastity in an amazing marriage with a very sexual goddess. Knowing who I am, allows me to live an extraordinary life, Learning what excites, arouses, and pleasures me and acting from that is all part of this, Sadly, very few people experience this bliss for more than a few moments throughout their lives. Our “normal” married friends for the most part have fallen into a boring sexual routine (sex once a week for 15 minutes with little real satisfaction for either party). While they are good people, they are not happy and fulfilled. AND they do not share the depth of intimacy and friendship I/we experience. PS yes, when allowed I am a very willing submissive (orally and anally) partner to our Alpha bull. Those experiences in the presence of and with my wife are some of the pleasurable of my life. DO NOT hesitate to live who you are!

Agreed Dan. Honestly, the staleness of traditional sex sort of led us here. I doubt there would be much sexual expression, or excitement had we not gone down this path.

Life is certainly more interesting this way 🙂

I see that this topic hasn’t been updated in a few months. I’m wondering if anything has progressed here.
Specifically, have you been interested in sucking off other men or is this just confined to her lover(s)?

Have you communicated that you would like anal sex again? What are you waiting for?

What is my sexuality? sounds like you are discovering it! agree, no labels required

Hi, ever since about 18 years of age I’ve needed my female lover to cuckold me, I am 62 years old, I consider myself a third-gender type because I need to be a submissive bottom for men, yet I can perform sexual for a female if she tells me to.
I am prefer watching as a girlfriend of mine has sex with a man, I like her to tell me to perform fellatio on her boyfriends, or they can penetrate me as well.

For many, I think the gay urges stem from one being inclined to be submissive to the woman and/or her lover, perhaps some admiration. I have all of those things but I’ve also had numerous gay experiences, periodic urges, etc, and I do think my strong desire to be a cuck is related.

I’m with you. I think there’s a reason I badly want my wife with a really handsome guy, and I would gladly do gay things with him if he or she instructed me to.