There was a discussion yesterday in the site chatroom which gave me cause to dig around more on the topic of long-term denial for cuckolds. By long-term, I’m talking months and multiples of months. I was of the opinion that long-term denial, without periodic prostate exercise, was detrimental to prostate health in particular. I couldn’t recall the source of my opinion so I decided to look around some more.
How Risky Is It?
In short, there is a lot of contradictory content on the topic out there, but little of it has much academic backing. Of the readily found articles on the topic, the only one I found with some serious credentials behind it is the one excerpted below.
…it is healthy for the prostate to be emptied regularly to prevent congestion. For the average man, ejaculation 2-3 times a week is sufficient. However, there is great individual variation. Too frequent ejaculation beyond the tolerance of the prostate (which also varies individually) can inflame the prostate and predispose to other types of prostatitis including bacterial infection. The prostate’s tolerance can only be determined by trial and error if one is curious.
Congestive or other types of prostatitis are generally not permanent and can be treated easily. The treatment of congestive prostatitis is mentioned above.
This article also contains a great description of the male reproductive system’s inner workings.
The bottom line of this article was that long-term denial really only leads to forms of prostatitis which is non-permanent and easily treatable (see the full article). The article specifies that there’s no increased risk of prostate cancer via denial, but I’ve read other articles, with less academic standing, who counter that statement. I’ve also read references to the muscles of the prostate being weakened through inactivity, but again, this wasn’t referenced in this article.
Don’t Panic
I know the restrained cuckolds out there who are getting their routine release every two or three weeks are starting to panic that they may now see their penis kept restrained, teased and denied for much longer. While this may happen at times, it’s still advisable to play it safe and be a responsible Dom(me) when it comes to the cuckold’s health and equally important – his wellbeing.
It does now seem much less risky to lengthen denial periodically for purposes like punishment for the cuckold who fails to meet expectations regarding his penis or responsibilities as a cuckold, but I would still advise most couples against long-term denial without seeking medical advice.
Thank you very much Luvr for the article & your research on the topic.
My response is in no way being critical of those who practice denial.
That said, as a nurse, I don’t believe denial is healthy for the man. The prostate is a gland, supplying 80% give or take prostatic fluid which is basic in nature to protect sperm from the acidic environment of the vagina. That and other glands produce semen an amazing substance which begins in a gel like form then liquifies after a while.
Glands secrete and have to be discharged. Masturbation, outercourse are healthy sexual expressions which exercises these glands and keeps them healthy. Personally I don’t view denial, and other forms of denial practices like enforced impotence healthy for the man. That’s just my opinion. My diction is use it or lose it-and, decreasing release could have detrimental effects over time-possibly prostate cancer.
Recently, the issue of stress related to cancer was discussed and somehow pre cancer cells can continue to full blown cancer is stress is continued. We all have pre cancer cells develop but our immune system wipes them out. Sex releases endorphins further reducing pre cancer cells as well. Thus decreasing stressors promote a healthier body.
Perhaps denial has a 2 fold aspect but I would lean towards it stressing the system versus helping it. Again. I’m not being critical but as a nurse I tend towards wellness vesrsus less.
It is known that more stress precipitates more disease. The body is out of balance. Denial to me, I think would create a body out of balance.
@blueopals – I understand your perspective and admit I don’t have the medical training you do, but from the research I’ve done, the consensus has been that an overloaded prostate, whether he’s 15 or 50, will discharge on its own, if need be (hence wet dreams for hormone-infused adolescent males). As I said in my article, I’ve always been of the mind that long-term denial without a fairly strict release regimen was harmful, but couldn’t find consensus on that point. Tantric sex has been practiced in India for a long, long time and I couldn’t find any reference to that causing significant medical problems either. My lay-person take on it is that stress is as much or more mental than physical and how a cuckold handles/relates to his denial and whether it’s experienced as physical stress my have a lot to do with his perspective and what his body/brain chemistry is because of it.
Luvr very good points especially about Tantra. And yes, stress is a mental thing which affects the body-the mind-body aspect, what affects the mind will affect the body. True, the prostate will discharge-it’s a gland and will release on its own. So you have good points, and the basic thing you wrote is how an indicidual male will deal with his stressors. So that leads me to suggest relaxing techniques for the male, meditation, bringing a spiritual aspect to the meditation which will enable any stress to be reduced. I have seen how colors affect blood pressure and gazing on a amethyst or lapis lazuli (blue) will reduce blood pressure within minutes. I have tried red and orange and it does increase blood pressure while gazing on those colors!! How? Color stimulate the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems. It you see a red car it will greatly stimulate the sympathetic system. Playboy discovered how black, red and gold stimulate men sexually. It is amazing.
So the crux of what you’re saying is how the male will manage his stress and that would be an important thing to do.
What are the risks of permanent shrinkage with long term chastity? My thought process is along the lines of atrophy when a muscle is not used such as when a cast is needed for a broken bone. Of course I know we are actually talking about an organ but thought to ask those who have experience.
Thanks!
I’ve spoken to cuckolds who claim to have experienced some minor shrinkage in erection length, but I’ve not found anything official to back that up.