Reply To: Finally Told My Wife, She is hurt by what I said

she was probably thinking it Was simple role play .not expecting a real desire to emerge. yes. many will and do think its a rejection of them and possibly an excuse to bed other women.
hard to get past initial shock for many wive whom put up barriers. not talking openly. is not ideal for long term relationships.
ideally you need a wife whom has found herself in same situation but gone on from that to chat to her.answer questions etc.
that is not going to be easy to find!