A discussion about cuck mentality

When I was about 21 my gf starting dating others. It hurt a lot but I discovered it turned my on, too. My wife has declined to cuckold me. But I have fantasized about her having a lover or bf. It would be so overwhelming to have eye contact with her when he enters her and when he releases. I think it would somehow be calming for me. I’d feel like I am no longer expected to fill her sexual needs. She would have found someone else eager and hopefully more capable of satisfying her.
She would be ‘mortified’ if others found out. I suspect I’d like others knowing especially if he was a younger capable alpha with a big dick. How many of her friends have gotten completely bored with their husbands. Their husbands are not handsome. And they can’t skate well or dance well. (I have a theory: you f like you skate or dance. mechanical, rigid or fluid and graceful with variations in speed and rhythm) I know the husbands tell me things like, “my wife wanted to have sex last night. I just wanted to go to sleep. Didn’t we just have sex 2 weeks ago?”

Yes, there’s some about admitting to yourself and her expressing that I’m a sub that is calming. I no longer have to solve everything.

Hopefully some day I can say “thanks, Mr for taking my wife out for the evening.”

Psychological conditioning.
My mother was very loving, but only conditionally if I abided her rigid rules. Then at 18 I joined the Army as an Infantryman for four years. Needless to say I was conditioned to accept my role as an expendable piece of Uncle Sam’s property. Ex cheated on me in my 30’s and in the fallout afterwards I’d have happy-warm-fuzzy-feeling dreams that Mr Bull would stop by every few months to make the ex happy again and to laughingly humiliate me. Now in my 40’s I’m fully conditioned to crave recognition and, most importantly, APPRECIATED for my subservient role. Over the years it has progressively gotten more and more humiliating because that’s exactly what I’m chasing – appreciation for my humility. The thought of being a treasured cuck by Her AND Him is what has brought me(us) to this online community.

Cuckolds do you believe, once a willing cuckold, always a cuckold?

When the husband loves the wife, the anguish of the husband not being able to satisfy his wife sexually it’s painfull, with many doubts and mental conflicts. Gradually he wants solutions and he develops a compersion feelings. The Husband’s satisfaction is projected onto wife’s happiness.

I believe once a cuck always a cuck. At least it’s true for me.

Sure, once a cuck always a cuck. There are things that only know one direction, cuckolding is one of them.

Reply to coffee. I think that the more experiences we have in life, the more we learn and move forward. In a loving cuckold relationship, 2 people share the experience, no matter what the involvement of the husband. I think that as cuckolds, encouraging, supporting and loving our wives, we understand a woman may get pregnant, with what ever the precautions are in place. Well thought out plans can be over turned by the needs of the flesh. Which of us cucks can say we would deny, or try to deny our cuckoldress when she is the throes of passion. It is exactly where we want her to be, and can not be denied. It is mind over matter, and the fact of the matter is we want her to have the absolute best love making session she has ever had every time she is with her bull/boyfriend.

i am a submissive cuk to my dominant wife…..i am just learning how to behave here sorry if i am inappropriate

This is one of the better threads on this site. Most of everything I read above seems real to each of you. I agree with most of it from experience. One can only talk from personal experience as fact for oneself, however that same statement can only at best become a generalization for cuckolds. For instance, a cuckold is a subordinate person. It’s not a fact only a generalization.

For us, I am Cuckold for sure and I greatly and passionately love being one. I am a big dominating control freak. I am a small business owner and control everything at work and home. My Hotwife is very submissive and does what she is told. My Hotwife has a very hard time expressing herself and is a very pleasing person. She had never did or say anything to hurt anyone’s feelings. Until she gets a few drinks in her, yeah o’boy, sometimes a hard way for me to learn things.

It short, I was aware of my shortcomings in the bedroom before we met over 34 years ago, but I could only mask it over a few years of marriage. I knew it was me that would have to make adjustments in the bedroom before we self destructed, as she was reluctant to fully express herself. For me it was my deep love for my wife that I was ready to become submissive in the bedroom and surrender all control. But I had to be the one to introduce the thought of another man to satisfy her sexually. It went beyond persuasion to the point of me telling her she had to do it for both of us. She was a reluctant Hotwife right up to her third lover who rocked her hard. That was what really changed everything for us.

We have been a Hotwife and Cuckold Couple since 2003. Since that turning point she has fucked over 40 different men. Some assholes, some good one nighters, some quickies on the beach or in a parking lot outside a club or pub and a few long term steady lovers for two to four years each. My cock has been caged since March of 2018 and I have been pussy free since January 2021. I am only allowed to cum by jacking off and only after she has had a lover that made her cum, and has cummed inside her and I have eaten her clean. Once that has been accomplished she will unlock my cock and I am free to jack off while she and her lover watch me. Oh and yes I am still that dominate figure outside the Hotwife and Cuckold situation or bedroom.

I love very much being her Cuckold Husband, over the past few years we have started telling others outside our circle about who we are. In 2020 she started wearing a necklace with the key for my cage. She doesn’t wear it around friends and family, however has started wearing it out in public in our local area, prior to that it was only outside our local area. This is an incredible turn on for me. I am so looking forward to her telling others that I am her caged cuckold.

Me and my wife are in a cuckold relationship. My wife has a regular bull/boyfriend for the last 6 years and they are getting quite emotional, which I like a lot. However, I just wanted to say that for me also the greatest sexual excitement is watching them together, knowing that they are together and so.

I have found virtually all submissions to be extremely interesting. With my ex, we transitioned from a straight relationship to swinging to cuckolding. To hear her talk on the phone with a long time bf ratcheted up my angst. Or on a rare occasion being invited to join them for dinner at a local restaurant and seeing them touch, kiss and talk across the table from me was so satisfying for my cuck mentality, and of course humiliating. We divorced not due to sexual inadequacies, but for reasons not fit for discussion here.

Male ago is your worst enemy. Fortunately we cucks start losing it with time, finally it disappears and we start enjoying our condition in plenitud, after your male ego is gone, there is not limits, sissification, servitude, humiliation is all part of it, living in a sex less marriage while your wife have it with her lover two, three times a week and you always with an smile and been cooperative and usefull. I don’t know if I been brain watch, but I’m know that I adore my wife, respect her lover and I’m happy.
I talk about this with my wife and she told me.- you never going to be with a woman again and that’s because you are happy eating real man’s cum. Is true.

This is me, taking it from my wife’s lover. This rarely happens but when it does I’m so grateful

I think it’s like a drug where you’re always looking for more and more. And a bull impregnating your wife with you raising the child, that is about as high as the stakes get. I can see the appeal for sure as a fellow cuck who it not *that* deep into it. Good luck!

Every couple’s experience and emotional and sexual needs are different, but at the root of it for us is the tension between love for my wife and my inability as a husband to provide full sexual gratification and fulfilment for her. That painful contradiction is probably a fact of many marriages, and different solutions may evolve in each one: it can be set aside and ignored, so that neither partner ever achieves full gratification; it can result in affairs/cheating by the wife in search of gratification, and sometimes the end of the marriage; or it can lead to sexual openness, which for some may be swinging and different sexual partners for both, but for us has meant my wife having boyfriends and me supporting her as a cuckold. It doesn’t end the painful contradiction but it’s the best way we have found to enjoy what it offers us.

Great input Tom. It reminds me of article by Luvr on this site:Tending To Your Marital Garden Posted by Luvr | Mar 14, 2011

Is normal that every time I try and stop this lifestyle the urges get stronger to stay in it. Then the more submissive I become. Same thing with my sissy side. Every time I stop it’s like a drug, it gets harder to stop and takes more control over me. Is this the same for most of us?

How does that make you feel?

I like it. It feels good.

I believe once a cuck always a cuck is a true universal fact. My 2 cents on this:

See the social norm is every male should be alpha. But once you are introduced to this cuckold concept you start to see a line. If you are meant to be an alpha bull you will easily dismiss it and continue being an alpha.

But for someone who is naturally a cuck. There are stages, like denial first, then the ego and fear of crossing than line, then softening to it and thinking what if I try. And once you cross the line all that fear is gone, the ego is broken and you accept your true self. It may fade for a while but it will always come back harder and prove yourself a cuck stronger than before. Therefore its useless to fight it.

Embrace your cuckold personality and be happier than ever!

That makes sense

Yes, I would really like to be in a cuckold marriage. BUT it irritates me that on certain websites users keep writing, apparently enthusiastically, that they are looking at the huge cock that is conquering their wife, that they are talking about cleaning and so on.

What is the real goal of being a cuckold?

The husband is unable, for whatever reason, to give his wife sexual happiness. A website writes: “A survey of over 1,000 German citizens showed that good sex has a positive effect on the perceived happiness in the entire relationship.” This shows that experiencing sexual happiness has an important meaning in life. Wife and husband must be aware of this before getting married.

Yes, I am aware of this and that is exactly why I reject the repeatedly expressed vision of looking at the lower half of the wife’s body during sex.

I also reject it when it is said that the wife cheated. The wife has gotten what life needs. And if the husband also agrees to this, then it is not cheating.

What is the consequence? If your wife’s happiness is really important to you, look at your wife’s face and read her happiness. Only that is important !

Berlin you are totally confuse about cuckold life and mind. Your vanilla approach to the theme is irrelevant, for must of us cucks life happiness and all is about our wife’s, we have beta personalities, our manhood is gone, we are permanently excluded from regular sex, that’s why we envy our wives and become devoted not only to her but to her lover masculine attributes, cleaning my wife’s after sex is one of the few things I get and for that I’m grateful and enjoy to the max, and she’s so proud of me because I eat her man’s cum.

Thank you Cuckaroo.

If my wife is happy, then I am happy. If my wife is pleased then I am pleased. If my wife is being satisfied then I am satisfied. I gained more pleasure knowing she is being properly taken care off and from watching her with her well-endowed lovers. I am here for her, and her pleasure is my pleasure. I am a cuck, and I derive pleasure from being her cuck hubby.

There i no way out of it. Once a cuck – always a cuck. You need to learn to enjoy it and make the best out of it. And there are many ways to do so – each need to find his own.