Why do (prospective and actual) Cucks get so aroused…

… by (the thought of) another man fucking their wives?

A question a Bull recently asked me and where he even turned to @Luvr for an answer. My wife is even more recent to this LS than me and she wanted to know the same thing. As my answer didn’t fully satisfy either of them, it really made me think about this. In the same way someone will only ever give fleeting consideration as to why they’ve got a specific fetish for example, I never thought about this much and quite simply accepted it as fact. But now I am curious…

First things first, I expect it is a case of different strokes for different folks so I can only attempt to answer this question from my own perspective. And even then, it might just not be possible for a Bull, the exact equal and opposite of a Cuck, to get it. Still, here goes nothing where my initial short answer touched on three elements:

The Immature. It is a size and stamina thing in it’s most basic form. Boys look and compare themselves to other boys and they grow up to be men that look and compare themselves to other men. Yes, I’m enthralled by a big dicked man with stamina in the same way that I enthralled by professional athletes. Add to that the intimacy of my very own wife being the subject of his ministrations and I am on 11 on the 10-scale arousal rating scale.

The Surrogation. Yes, I am fully aware of my inadequacies and I feel horrid about it – try as I might, I just can’t give the one person I love more than any other in the world the satisfaction she wants (néé, needs & deserves). And God knows us Cucks try. I’ve got plans aplenty to try and make sex better, but varying position, focusing on all erogenous zones, varying the type of activity and focusing on other things are no substitute for actual ability. My wife actually asked if it is the case that some men just cannot get women to achieve an orgasm and that they desire it to such an extent that it turns them on when another man can do it (and for them). There is certainly some merit in this. Instead of dreading sex – or more accurately dreading yet another
inadequate performance – I get to live vicariously and in a way, almost become part of the amazing sex she has. This in itself skyrockets my arousal, but it’s a double whammy of thought and actual aftercare experience for me.

The Danger. This LS if fraught with danger and risk. The perception of a managed risk is a huge turn on in and of itself and that is before the full range of emotions are considered. Cucks in general have vivid imaginations which goes well beyond a visual; they can put themselves in a situation and let the anticipated emotions wash all over them. The same endorphins and adrenaline and the same behaviour of all neuro-chemical transmitters that cause arousal are present in angst, denial and risks.* Quite simply its impact becomes more exaggerated the closer you live to societal norms. It is very welcome relief from normative restrictions and a rush like no other. Once you have relieve or (even imagined) release, the blood flow quite simply takes me to another level of arousal. It is such an alien thought, taboo almost, and high risk, that just the mere thought – but actually thinking through it in its full wondrous complexity – gets me aroused beyond the comprehension of most people.

I fully accept that there is an element of over-thinking this. This phenomenon if you want, is often enough reported and described in detail to simply accept it as fact and yet, it is thinking and talking about things of this nature, that we get to know and understand ourselves and that we – and others – get closer to make all elements of this LS more acceptable.

All this might be much simpler for others. They get turned on by finding themselves in the natural beta order of things, their DNA perhaps even drive this most primal response to seeing or thinking about their significant other having sex with a Bull / Third, but as this doesn’t hold true for me, I have left it unexplored.

I would welcome views on this “simpler” take and my thoughts and posted this here in an attempt (a) to generate some engagement as I miss the likes of @StokieUKCpl and others like him / them that made this site tick and (b) also as a way to thank @Fuzz who has been an absolute fucking legend in helping me on this journey.

In particular, I would love to hear from a Stag… In the same way a Bull might be struggling to understand this, as a Cuck I don’t get why it would arouse a Stag to see his significant other being fucked by a Third when he is perfectly capable of satisfying her. Could that be as simple as (and I am being deliberately provocative in saying this) it being so traditionally wrong and just plain nasty and that their situation is closer to traditional Swinging?

Similarly, I would love to get a view from any any Cuckoldresses and while at it, I highly recommend reading the following (which in a roundabout way, touch on this subject as well): https://www.thecuckoldconsultant.com/articles/cuckold-angst-pt-1/

* I very briefly posed this hypothesis to a Neuro-Scientist in another Parish earlier today… She asked me to mention that while this is not completely within her area of expertise and that she only very briefly considered it, that “the science should be checking out”.