Reply To: Advice on getting started

Those are good points. I would definitely say that it is true that the failed intercourse attempts were at bad times where she was tired or stressed for one reason or another. For her, it seems to be hard to get her to a point mentally aroused because she gets so stressed about factors both inside and outside of our sex life.

I think doing what I outlined with eliminating penetration, and focusing on her pleasure will create an open environment by eliminating any pressure she has from pleasing me, so then the only mental block she will have will be from eternal factors such as work. This will build a way for us have reliable, enjoyable forms of intimacy that works for her and my needs. Does that sound right?

I have a slight idea of what type of guys she likes,I definitely am doing more to try to bring that out of her. I want to help her socialize with other men, to demonstrate that she is desirable to them, but that is also a work in progress. I have thought about setting guys up somehow just to have them hit on her, but is that a bad idea? Thoughts?

I know right now that the possible lack of interest she has in other men would be caused by her lack of confidence, so getting that to go away seems pretty key.

Again, thank you for your help, I really appreciate it and look forward to hearing from you.