Reply To: Advice on getting started

Hey Chad, saw your post here and just thought I’d chime in, and first of all thank Luvr for his great advice. I’ve been at this for about a year now and have gotten my wife to about the exact same place you and yours are at. When you mentioned she said “I don’t know what I am into, and I don’t really know how to figure it out” it really made me pause to respond as my wife has said basically the exact same thing to me recently. For what it’s worth, what I did is on turned on her at that point and told her that it’s ok, it’s great that you can admit that. Then I got her to agree to explore with me until she does figure out what will turn her on. Getting her to do the actual exploring now is a little more difficult as you said as she is also usually very stressed/tired from her work and the kids and everything, but when we have been intimate lately I have definitely noticed a transition in her. She is telling me what she wants a little more, and the things she wants are different then we have ever done before. And she has also been wearing more revealing clothes outside of the house, which has been a major plus. Anyways, just thought I’d say hey and let you know you’re not alone in your situation, and wish you the best of luck!