Checking In

It has been awhile since we have posted. Just want to stop by to say how much I appreciate this website and how much it has helped me grow and accept that it is okay for me to love my wife fucking other men and that it makes me happy for her to be sexually satisfied. Although since our last post seeking advise we are still moving slow, we have made progress and S has been able to enjoy a couple fun times with another man. The holidays slowed us down and she still has not completely embraced our sexuality openly we are having a lot of fun in our bedroom. 

Last we made a contract, serious and also for our entertainment that I think some may enjoy reading. You will certainly see some lessons we have learned and agree with from the blog post on this site. Happy New Year all!

Mrs. S and Mr. S Contract 

This Contract is a celebration of Mrs. S’s sexual freedom, Mr. J’s devotion to Mrs. S’s pleasure, and their joint commitment to enhancing their sexual relationship with each other. It demonstrates a deep love and commitment to one another and is to be used as a guide for our relationship.  This agreement shall last indefinitely or until either party wishes to renegotiate it.

Mrs. S Declares:

Her rights and freedom as a hotwife.

That while her husband can sexually satisfy her – her personal sexual experiences, her body image, and her sexual experiences with Mr. J will be enhanced by periodically seeking pleasures outside of the married relationship.

That she is married to the most wonderful man she has ever met, and can ever imagine.  Although she desires occasional physical pleasures outside of the married relationship, it is her husband she loves deeply and emotionally and she has no desire to ever separate from him.

Mrs. S understands that although her desire to engage in sexual experiences outside of her marriage to Mr. J emerges from her goal to enhance her marital relationship, the act of her expressing desire for other individuals can be humiliating, cause some angst and sometimes jealously.  As such, she must  constantly remind Mr. J of her love for him as well as why their marriage is enhanced by these experiences.

Mr. J Declares:

That he accepts Mrs. S’s needs and accepts being Mrs. S’s faithful husband in body, mind and spirit freely and without hesitation.

He acknowledges that he finds thoughts, images and the actual experiences of Mrs. S being sexual with another individual highly erotic.  When Mrs. S engages in an extramarital sexual experience, it is a source of sexual pleasure not just for Mrs. S, but equally for Mr. J.

Mrs. S’s perceptions of herself as a sexual being, and Mr. J’s marital relationship with Mrs. S is enhanced by encouraging Mrs. S to pursue sexual pleasure outside of their marriage.

That he is married to the most perfect and most beautiful woman on the planet and accepts the position of being a lucky husband with a hot sexual wife, with the understanding that Mrs. S has complete sexual freedom to have sex with whom she wants while he remains faithful to her.  

Mr. J promises to love and support Mrs. S and her extra-marital affairs, be they long-term, short-term, or one-night stands. He also promises to inform Mrs. S immediately when he is becoming insecure about these sexual encounters, and to communicate to Mrs. S when he may need additional love and reassurances from her.

Section 1

Rights of the Hotwife

(1.1) Mrs. S will reserve the right to pursue and undertake extramarital affairs.

(1.2) These extramarital affairs can be of a heterosexual or homosexual nature.

(1.3) The number of partners is not limited in anyway.

(1.4) Mrs. S has the right to choose which men she will have sexual relations with.

(1.5) Once Mr. J gives his consent, the period of Mrs. S having sexual relations with another man is indefinite and Mrs. S can have sexual relations with him as much as she may choose.

(1.6) Mrs. S has the right to have sexual relations with more than one man at a time or multiple partners at a time. Whenever possible Mr. J should be present.  

(1.7) Mrs. S has the right to use or not to use birth control, including condoms.

(1.8) Mrs. S has the right to have sexual relations with other men wherever she may choose including at home.  

 

Section 2

Duties of the HotWife

(2.1) Mrs. S will inform Mr. J prior to any extramarital affair and wait until he communicates his approval.

(2.2) Mrs. S must make it clear to the other men that their relationship is for sexual pleasure, that they can make no claims to her as their own, and that her and her husband are very much in love.

(2.3) Mrs. S promises to allow Mr. J to watch her with her studs or tell him every detail of how they please and satisfy her.

(2.4) Mrs. S will call, or text when arriving at a new location when going to see or when being accompanied by another male. Mrs. S will also communicate via text or call if she will be out of communication for awhile.

(2.5) All extramarital affairs must be covert at all times, except from Mr. J, or any close friends in the know.

(2.6) A safe system must be arranged for the emergency contact between Mr. J and Mrs. S at all times during an extramarital affair experience.

(2.7) Mrs. S must communicate her love to Mr. J after any extramarital affair, ensuring he is continually comfortable in the hotwife-husband relationship.

(2.8) Mrs. S will include Mr. J in her extramarital affairs. Ways to include Mr. J can be by sending him pictures, having him help prepare her body for dates, purchase clothing for dates, have other male directly communicate with Mr. J, or being present. These ideas can be expanded upon or limited.

(2.9) Mrs. S will not deny Mr. J sex with her more than one time.

(2.10) Mrs. S will not shower prior to coming home to Mr. J if within the same day.

(2.11) Mrs. S will put her family first always, including her husband and her children when arranging sexual encounters.

 

Section 3

Duties of the Sexy Husband

(3.1) Mr. J must take care of the home and children during any Hotwife activities, when needed.

(3.2) Mr. J will be treated as an equal by Mrs. S and her lover during their meeting.

(3.3) Mr. J  must never undertake any activity that could be construed as attempting to facilitate an extramarital affair between himself and another.

(3.4) Mr. J may be allowed heterosexual or homosexual experiences as deemed appropriate by Mrs. S.

(3.5) Mr. J shall never join Mrs. S and her partner, unless expressly approved to do so by the Mrs. S.  He will also ensure that when he desires to join in, that he asks to do so, and does not wait for an invitation

(3.6) Mr. J shall never make a scene or make Mrs. S feel uncomfortable when in the presence of a sexual partner.

(3.7) Mr. J may appeal to postpone an encounter between Mrs. S and her partner.

(3.8) Mr. J will give Mrs. S oral pleasure prior an extramarital affair experience if Mrs. S chooses.

(3.9) Mr. J will give Mrs. S oral pleasure after all extramarital sexual encounters, including ones where her partner or multiple partners ejaculate inside her or on her body.  

(3.10) Mr. J will be supportive and encouraging of any and all sexual encounters that the Mrs. S chooses to have outside of her relationship. He will keep any jealousy or angst he may be feeling in check.  He will also ensure Mrs. S is aware of things she can do to help keep these feelings at bay.

(3.11) Mr. J will do all household laundry as a reminder of his fetish, and all other household chores will be completed equally.

(3.12) Mr. J will buy Mrs. S a gift of his choice when after all naughty hotwife outings helping reassure her of his love and support of her hotwife behavior.  

 

Section 4

Intercourse

(4.1) Mr. J must submit to any sexual advances by the Mrs. S, and Mrs. S must submit to any sexual advances by Mr. J.

(4.2) Both Mr. J and Mrs. S  must maintain a high standard of hygiene at all times.

(4.3) Mr. J is responsible for the cleaning of any apparatus used during intercourse.

 

Section 5

Ownership Rights 

(5.1) Mr. J and Mrs. S will both wear, carry, or have tattooed on them a symbol of their hotwife relationship.

(5.2) Mr. J and Mrs. S will not argue but will speak openly and honestly to each other.

(5.3) Mr. J will not criticize or express disappointment with Mrs. S.

(5.4) Mr. J and Mrs. S will not break promises to each other.    

(5.5) Mrs. S may order Mr. J to wear anything at her own discretion if it turns her on.

(5.6) Mrs. S will not be owned by Mr. J or any other man she is with.  

 

Section 6

Hotwife Dresscode

(6.1) Mrs. S will wear dresses, skirts and short shorts when appropriate.

(6.2) Mrs. S will only wear unlined bras, ¼ cup bras or better no bras unless discretion is necessary.

(6.3) Mrs. S will wear shoes with heels or some lift excluding athletic attire.

(6.4) All underwear will be thongs, sexy cut or no underwear.

(6.5) Mrs. S will enjoy shopping for sexy clothing that show off her perfect body.  

(6.6) Mrs. S will dress sexually for Mr. J when appropriate at home.

 

Section 7

Humiliation

(7.1) There will be no intentional humiliation by either party or outside lover. If the outside lover chooses the humiliation path, the sexual relationship with him will stop.

(7.2) Teasing and rubbing Mr. J’s nose in it is allowed in a humbling manner. Also Mr. J acknowledges he enjoys and is turned on by his wife having big cock (defined as a cock bigger than Mr. J’s), Mrs. S acknowledges she is  a size queen and all cock teasing is allowed.

Section 8

Public Behavior

While in public, in front of family members, co-workers, etc., Mr. J and Mrs. S will interact with each other and others in a “traditional” manner; however, the following will continue to take place:

(8.1) Mr. J will open the car door for the Mrs. S.

(8.2) Mr. J will perform any minor tasks requested by the Mrs. S.

(8.3) Mrs. S will be as flirtatious as she desires even in Mr. J’s presence.

 

Section 9

Children and at Home

(9.1) Our hotwife lifestyle will not have a negative impact on our children.

(9.2) Although we know as adults the lifestyle we choose is generally not socially acceptable and would not be accepted well by most of our extended family, we are not shameful and are proud of our marriage. Our kids should always know we are proud of each other and happy in our relationship.

(9.3) As we do not have sex ourselves in-front of our children, we will not have sex with others in-front of our children.  If circumstances allow, flirting, touching and light kissing between Mrs. S and another person in front of the children can be allowed if clearly supported by both Mr. J and Mrs. S.  Any sexual activity out of sight from the kids is acceptable.

(9.4) We will not hide who Mrs. S is going out with by lying or talking in secret.  We both understand children are smarter than this and it only causes suspicion and fear.  The casual reminder by Mr. J that Mrs. S is having lunch with ‘him’ on Saturday, for example, demonstrates that he’s someone Mr. J is comfortable with Mrs. S being alone with. Also any phone calls or texts with another individual should not be conducted in a hushed or censored tone.

(9.5) In cases where another individual, who Mrs. S has a sexual relationship with, is coming over to our home, Mr. J and Mrs. S will not hide their excitement.  When children are exposed to the couple’s’ shared excitement during the planning and anticipation of this ‘friend’ coming to dinner, they become part of that excitement and see such an event as something positive rather than foreboding.

(9.6) Mrs. S will not sneak out of the house and will dress sexy with confidence before a hotwife encounter. She will be proud that she is a sexy mom, inform her children that she is meeting a friend, and kiss both of her children before she leaves.  Similarly, she will kiss Mr. J before leaving, if he is staying home with the children.