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cuckie1
I have been a long time lurker and my wife and I have been practicing a FLR for over two years. We just recently had the “talk” and my wife asked, “Would me taking a lover really help our marriage?”
Would any of the cuckolds and/or hotwives care to comment on how the lifestyle has affected your relationship? Bulls can respond as well if they would like.
Thanks in advance.
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slaveofwife
Hi Madam D and g.
Im a submissive man married to a dominant wife. We are slowly making way into this lifestyle.
As for your situation, it seems that your wife is interested and is asking for your opinion.
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Thehusband
Why your wife asked you?
It seems to me the help is for your wife, maybe she need a strong man… I thing the question is for herself. Even if you treat her like a princess, she needs to be treated like a female. -
Anonymous
I think she is asking for your Ok and approval. I think she probably has a potential lover lined up.
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cuckie1
My wonderful Madam has found 2 such men. One is at work and the other is a member in a group of runners that she belongs to. Apparently, she is excited by the guy at work and is very excited by the guys she knows from the run group.
Her biggest concern is damaging or losing what she already has, namely her reputation with friends and family and/or with me. I have told her that many of the accounts that I have read mention the positive affect on the cuckold marriage, but we all know that no endeavor is without risk. I was hoping that a thread that gives examples of real couples benefits to their marriage from this lifestyle would reassure her to the point of making some additional steps to making it a reality for us.
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Bellaazz
We are a real cuckold couple so maybe I can help. In our case it definitely has improved our marriage. We communicate much better, she says I spend a lot more time focusing my time on her needs instead of my own, she loves me more for allowing her to experience sexual satisfaction which she couldn’t get from me. But there are risks, of course. She could become emotionally attached to the bull. We were lucky to have one that is not interested in a relationship, just great sex, so it is a win-win-win but communication and picking the right individual is key there. We were definitely worried about the reputation with friends and family so we keep ours private. Just the three of us know. When my wife hooks up with a different guy for a little strange, we make sure no one else is there or knows about it. The work guy you mentioned would be a little tricky. Can’t jeopordize her career. If he is married or attached, he may keep quiet about it but if not, you have to worry about spreading it. If she is choosing guys, Id say she is wanting to try it but just make sure you talk about it and plan carefully before jumping in. Then, yes, it can DEFINITELY help your marriage
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slaveofwife
Tell her to go for it unless she takes a leap of faith, she will never know!
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lovecouple1
It would be very interesting to learn more about first time experiences especially where the wife has been reluctant due to family, kids ect and fear of damaging her security.
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slaveofwife
yes that would be amazing if someone can share their experiences.
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cuckie1
Anyone? Please?
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Voyeurcuck
Well, I (or we should I say) was the happy couple without any dirty thoughts (in my wife’s head) for about 10yrs. Then one night I took the chance telling her I fantasized about her being fucked by another man. Reaction was clearly positive in body language (orgasm) so I took it a bit further step by step.
We finally took an IRL step 3yrs ago…and what a step. A potent experienced Bull about 12yrs older than her that took her for 3hrs while I assisted.
It was not purely a good experience at first, she was so exited I felt being let alone and excluded, but after a couple of days intense talk we settled and understood this was a spice for us, not something threating our marriage.
We have been with a few other people (couples and one single lady for her) and also seen a couple of potential Bulls, as this is really our common kick. Everyday life has though put a dampener on our sex life, and we don’t see anyone for the moment.
Did it strengthen our relationship? Yes definetely, but it was not without hickups and it COULD have taken a different tour if we didn’t spoke it through so well after the first night.
As for your story (thread owner) I believe your wife seeks your acceptance. This has been important in our evolution too, and my wife is actually doing a lot to ensure she’s doing it for us, not just for her. And I make sure I’m involved (I pick and/or approve the guys) so I don’t feel excluded.
I think all relationships are different, and so are the couple’s desires for how they eventually live out their cuckold fantasies too. But regardless, make sure you talk it through and feel safe in what you do.
A fantasy can stay as fantasy, a word can be excused, but a real act can never be undone
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slaveofwife
thank you some great responses on here.
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max_68
Danke für die offenen Worte hier, die ich in unserer Diskussion gut als Argumente verwenden kann – ich weiß, es ist ein langer Weg.
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