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    • #19440
      Natnextdoor

        The other night my husband and I were laying in bed together looking thru messages and talking to guys online on the site we’re using to find a guy. We fooled around while talking about the guys and it lead to incredibally intense sex. I felt a closeness to him I’d never experienced before and I think it’s because we about to embark on this alternative sexual lifestyle that takes a rock solid relationship to invite another man to bed. As you all well know, it takes a level of honesty and communication unknown to most conventional relationships.

        That being said, it got me thinking about the emotional side to the hotwife lifestyle. I’m now wondering if I’ll ever develope feelings for the other guy. Is it common for that to happen? If so, how have you husbands and wives dealt with it? Is it best to ignore them and keep going or end things with the guy and find another? I’m not looking for a polyamorous marriage at all so I’d like to keep feelings out of it but I’m not sure how realistic that is.

      • #19452
        Thehusband

          Yes, it common. My wife has a boyfriend because love him but love me too. Danger level!: depends degree of husband submission, maturity of the couple and strength of feelings about your husband.
          In my opinion, in polyamorouse marriage, in your case, the two men can not have the same personalities and habilities and you have to love the difference.

        • #19556
          viperco

            It is more common than you imagine. As long as you both recognize it and talk about it, it works out fine. I am fine with her feelings for him as she is close to me. I want her to be happy and satisfied, as he does as well.

          • #20231
            Gracie

              That is why, in my view, it is important for the wife to have a great many lovers. Emotional attachment is almost inevitable, so having many lovers helps spread those feelings around a bit, and if one guy starts feeling too attached, it is then easier to dump him.

              Gracie: Chick with a Dick

            • #20234
              dave

                My wife always has had long term lovers. I think it’s normal for her to find emotional attachments to them but she always lets me know she loves me. I think one of her lovers started getting too attached to her and she broke it off with him but other than that there has been no problems because of that.

              • #20657
                Deb’sHubby

                  There is definitely a romantic aspect to Deborah’s relationships with other guys. In fact, she’s in love with her current boyfriend. I had to work this Valentine’s and wasn’t going to get off until about ten that night. Deb asked if I would mind if she and her friend did something together. She came home around two in the morning wearing only shorts and a t-shirt and carrying a dozen roses. She said she had a “Wonderful” time and was in a great mood. She pulled off her shorts and T-shirt and rode me to orgasm cowgirl style before falling asleep.
                  The next morning I found her dress, underwear and shoes in a shopping bag left on the dining room table. While she was in the shower I checked her phone and saw she had texted him “I love you!” while still in bed.

                • #20799
                  JsCuck

                    Each couple has their own unique reasons and desires for having a cuckold marriage. But it seems that that on the issue of one partner for her or many, couples go one direction or the other. Certainly there are risks and rewards whichever way you choose.

                  • #21250
                    Albert and Faye

                      Fuck all of the other guys that you want, but only love your husband. You won’t be happy any other way. Love is a decision, not uncontrollable feelings. Your husband is a lucky guy that you even look at him since the first day you met. You’re a lucky lady that he puts you on a pedestal, even to the point of sharing you sexually with other men.

                    • #21257
                      MatureMUK

                        its normal for a female to get emotionally attached to any man fucking her. some females c an. set it aside and just have e sex as most men do.
                        however nature gives females different attitude and is part of being a female.
                        expect to grow fond of and then love. the bull. he will become. a lover! if we keep it balanced . do not push husband aside it can be blissful and a win. win situation all round.
                        if we allow emotions and feelings to displace husband or find conflict within relationship we need to adjust. or move on .
                        a fews couples will find long term best . others have more than one lover precisely to over come that intense. emotional attachment that occurs. just be careful and be honest with each other . good luck. do let us know how it pans out 🙂

                      • #21260
                        Anonymous

                          This is something to be aware of now I know this I don’t want my wife to fall for the other guy and she says she loves me and me only should I make a rule for that she said she has 3-4 rules. I have 1 rule both of us doesn’t want moderate to heavy Passionate kissing. Her other 2 Rules is all positions are open except our 2 favorite positions (Wheelbarrow & Missionary) which she says and finds it passionate & a connection between us and says it’s an awesome feeling also she has been with all sorts of sizes however she doesn’t care for a big dick or small one either she said she would hope the guy was at least 5″ and no more than 6½” in length as for Girth she likes it to be Average to kinda thick but no more than 5¾” thick. Lastly no matter what she says only 2 times a month maybe 3 times every so often like maybe every other month. Which I’m cool with however should I make my 2nd rule and last rule be: if at any time I sense or see him falling for my wife (wanting to be with her more or texting a her a lot trying his hardest that if I let her know it’s time to get someone different will she be okay with that or don’t make a rule no need to

                        • #21413
                          Bull

                            I have always had LTRs and there has always been a high level of passion between the wife and I. And while there is a dimension of love, it is in the context of the passion that can only exist within the uniqueness of the wife/lover relationship.
                            There is a distinct difference between the love that a wife feels for the man she enjoys the most physically and emotionally exciting life with and the love she shares with the man who drives 2 hours at 2 Am in the morning to fix the brother in laws car that broke down.
                            Fortunately, women are better able to compartmentalize relationships on multiple levels and so confused feelings are not often a problem-which is why wives should have lovers if they choose.

                          • #21417
                            JsCuck

                              If the wife is seeing only one bull and the relationship has been going on for a while (a year plus steady in our case), the hotwife may find herself craving an emotional connection with her Bull. Without this connection, even the best sexual relationship with a Bull may become stale and start to seem pointless to her.

                              The Bull is a person with feelings and insecurities too and for the hotwife will at some point start wanting to engage with Bull at an emotional level. To ignore him in this way would be to treat him like an inanimate object, something to be used just for sexual pleasure.

                              To the concern of this emotional connection may lead to the wife replacing her husband with her Bull: a self-aware hotwife will realize that making her Bull her full time relationship would ruin what makes that relationship so appealing to her in the first place. What makes the relationship with the Bull special is that this relationship is a respite from the challenges of everyday life. Add those burdens to the Bull (and most great Bulls know better than to want that, right?) and the spark would fade quickly and you’d be right back to craving the excitement of something new and different.

                            • #21418
                              John

                                I’m very concerned about this side of things…my wife is one of those girls who believes that it’s important to have feelings about a guy if she’s going to have sex with him and she’s not the sort of girl who has sex with lots of different men,..that she has been raised to believe that those girls are essentially sluts. .and I’m scared that she can’t have feelings for both of us in the same way..I am afraid that the only feelings she will have for me after is one of pity….she will feel sorry for me that I
                                A) want to be a cuckold
                                B) can’t compete sexually with another man
                                C) can’t posibly love her if I desire another man to have sex with her
                                D) am a sad guy that needs to find someone else who can be promiscuous

                              • #29855
                                Anonymous

                                  Im an ethical slut in that for me im happy to be open and get my sexual needs meet and dont need the emotional attachment that comes along with this for some people. What fetishes do is allows you to actually learn about yourself and its a good thing. Cuckolding in our relationship allows the fantasy to be lived out with set people safe and risk free… but with the fun times 10. End of the day my husband knows who im with where i am and i cum home with a smile that ends up wrapped firmly around his cock. We are all different. Communication is the key as to making sure all needs met.

                                • #29857
                                  Anonymous

                                    So Donna you have no feelings what so ever with the guys you are intimate with.Is this a easy thing for you to do ? Is it learnt or just comes naturally.

                                  • #29876
                                    Anonymous

                                      Dan…

                                      I have my lover, my best friend, the one who has my heart at home. The toy we refer to as a bull is the purpose of me getting fucked good and proper. No room for emotions just fun sexy times for me. I cant speak for other wives but i always return home where my heart is… well used non the less but satisfied. My cuck wants nothing more than for me to get those needs met.

                                      • #29880
                                        ahealthyguy4u

                                          “…I always return home where my heart is… well used none the less but satisfied. My cuck wants nothing more than for me than to get those needs met.”

                                          Wow, well said and probably appeals to so many more men, in general, who would be threatened by more advanced cuckolding.

                                          Do You share Your ‘Bull/fucking’ encounters with Your cuck?

                                        • #29897
                                          Anonymous

                                            Donna
                                            Would you consider Passion a feeling you can turn off also..The Dictionary describes the word “passion” as..”A Strong and barely controllable emotion”. If one engages in passion with there Bull would that not be a feeling between the wife and other guy.

                                        • #29877
                                          Anonymous

                                            Interesting thankyou..so you and your Bulls never transition to Boyfriend stage.

                                          • #29898
                                            Anonymous

                                              Define passion…. im passionate about growing great tomato plants…. i have a passion for great chocolate… the passion i have for my favorite footy team is high… its an emotion driven by an event or object with purpose… so a bull and passion is not him but the sex and the fetish and the role each plays cause lets face it… they are a toy to use to enjoy the passion of cuckolding my man.

                                              • #29900
                                                Anonymous

                                                  To keep it in context of the Post
                                                  “Feelings between the wife and other guy” I though I had defined “passion” As that of an uncontrolled feeling of emotion.Tomatoe growing aside let’s slip in a Bull or Boyfriend.Is it possible to remove feelings yet in the same sentance quote Passion.what I’m saying is Passion is a feeling.

                                              • #29906
                                                Anonymous

                                                  No room for emotions… passion in my opinion of how i view the word and definition is im passionate about the sex the fantasy the excitment the power i have over who i choose to fuck and when. My bull was chosen on the basis of him being older has had life experiences, does not want a relationship but is more than happy to enjoy me and i him and he has an amazing cock. Some ladies are looking for the cuckolding set up where they include a boyfriend. Im on my journey as is my partner and what excites me is its our interpretation of cuckolding and lets face it there are many levels… so no for me im able to have a sexual relationship with my bull be satisfied… turn my cuck on and enjoy both men. Does that explain?

                                                • #29907
                                                  Anonymous

                                                    It does Donna.

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