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Yann
Hi,
I recently discovered that I have a fetish for cuckolding and I don’t know how to deal with it and share this fetish/fantasy with my fiancée.
We’re in our mid-30s, and we’ve been together for a long time, and we’ve never been with other people.
My question is: how do I talk about this fetish/fantasy to my fiancée? To some, this may sound like a simple question, but it’s not. I believe there is a time, place and mood to talk about these things, but I have no experience in this matter, and I don’t want to scare her. If anyone could help me, it would be appreciated.
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Felix
Congratulations on your future wedding!
Felix(sorry can’t give advice, am struggling with this myself, good luck!)
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Luvr
Welcome to the community @yann36 – getting started is really about communication because communication is a basic necessity to not just get started, but to carry on in this as well.
https://cuckoldmarriage.info/starting-from-zero/ there are some tips in there on how to get started.
There are lots of ways to hint at things – comment on other men noticing her, for example. Or, you can mention having a dream where x and y happened and you found it oddly exciting – to encourage her curiosity and discussion. But, in the end, at some point it comes down to you being open about it because no spouse will ever take action on something so significant based on just some hints.
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Yann
Thank you for responding to my post @Luvr. It means a lot to me.
Your advice is noted, and it’s very interesting. The message I get is to take it slowly and build her interest in the lifestyle until then I believe we’re ready to talk about it.
I also want to point out that your website is phenomenal and very informative. I learned a lot from cuckoldmarriage.info.
For your intake, I thought I was weird for having these fantasies, but it turns out I’m not. Furthermore, I’m relieved that there exists a whole community involved in the lifestyle.
Once again, thank you for the advice.
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MatureMUK
luvr giving some good advise there. many wannabes. remain just that .. its always frightening suggesting such activities. to a spouse. many try setting up situations where wife may ? get seduced or at least start to consider having a fling .
eg encouraging her to attend a gym.swimming .dancing lessons. for some the extra. attention from men without hubby around can lead to flirting and the idea of straying. soem will never agree or seek to stray. hard to know where and whom. been a few wives whom suddenly strayed after several years when hubby had given up hope!
never say never 🙂 do encourage life to look attractive, compliment her when she does etc. good luck. -
paul
In addition to Luvrs good advice, and after getting over the initial converstation, I talked about the enjoyment of watching her and her enjoyment.
Additionally, I emphasized that I was not interested in other women, only in her. A woman will sometimes assume that this (another partner for you) is the goal. Reassurances on this therefore need to be made, especially in order to give her the comfort/feeling that she is free to explore.
This, and what Luvr has detailed above, all worked for me. It is not a quick process though, and you will need to work on it over time.
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