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Quick backstory: I came clean to my gf about my cuckolding fetish, and she said she accepted it was something I wanted and that it wasn’t that weird. We started doing fantasy talk, and at one point she said she would be willing to try it when we were going on vacation so no one would know(discreet, etc…). After a month or two, she got upset at one point and said she felt like it was all I ever ask for, so I slowed down. Now it seems like the idea isn’t something she wants to consider, but it’s also a very stressful time at her job so I think that’s part of the reason she hasn’t been sexual lately.
What advice can you all give me for moving forward? She likes hearing about how guys look at her, and she guiltily admits she texts her female friend who’s always hooking up with guys for deets, so she has a kind of repressed urge for sluttiness. She also previously admit she loves the idea of MFM, and that she wishes she had gone to college to experience being sexually active. IMO, I keep pointing ou male attention she gets, and how I’m proud of her for getting it, and that I am ok with her feeling attraction for other men. Now I want to ease her into feeling good enough to try it herself, maybe flirting at a bar or similar. My problem is that at the moment she’s not interested, and the sex isn’t often between us, with stress being her reason. Otherwise the relationship is great and she’s pestering me to get engaged with her, so what can I do to bring her back to healthy sexuality and trying some cuckolding?
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Anonymous
Hi
I was in exactly the same position.
My wife of 16years didn’t take it well when I told her I wanted to share her!.
I gave her time for it all to sink in, and a few things helped..
I got her comfortable in playing a game whilst we were out and about, she became comfortable rating guys out of 10, then the game evolved onto which ones she’d fuck.
It worked because it was only fantasy, so she felt no pressure, although to me it was very real!.
It made her believe it would hurt us, and that I actually wasn’t jealous, these were her biggest fears.
I moved onto letting her know she could if she wanted to, which did give her a buzz, not that she said that, but I could just tell, maybe it’s the excitement of her just knowing she could.
The next thing I tried did involve little white lies!…
I told her jokingly that a good male friend fancied her.. He’d not said anything, but I knew he did.
She did have a smile when I told her, so I spoke to him one day and in confidence told him that I was positive my wife fancied him!… Which she obviously hadn’t said.
I then put the cat amongst the pigeons by inviting him around more often.
Months past with them clearly flirting, with my wife even going commando under her skimpy t shirt and PJ bottoms.
I’d joke with my m8 to enjoy checking my wife out, and said the same to my wife.
The sexual tension built over time, so I moved onto telling him I’d like him to fuck my wife, and telling her I’d like her to have fun and have sex with him.
It all got to the point where he’d turn up with them both knowing they were allowed to fuck, and both wanted to.
We got as far as arranging a night at his place where they were going to have sex, but at the last minute he bottled it, saying he’d hurt his shoulder.
To this day he says it’s his biggest regret, but it showed me it was possible to get my wife laid.
I told her to just find a different guy, and over the next year or so she slept with 5 men, many multiple times.
I’d suggest not giving up, but try and keep it fun, make games that your both involved in.
Not only will she start trusting your idea, but when you plant that seed in her head that she can and that you want her to, well, she will carry that thought wherever she goes, she will look at men knowing she can, you just have to wait for that perfect guy to come along.
Periodically ask her if she’s met anyone she fancies, she won’t tell you, but may hope you ask first, then remind her she can!… The temptation will grow. -
Hassel
Very insightful strategy, Shaun.
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Steven
Thanks for the insight. I’m going to give it a long break, and then start with the rating game like you suggested.
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