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You might consider getting your wife to read all the articles written by Luvr. They are intelligently written and she’s not going to come away thinking you are a freak.
Set the scene. Print them all off. Run her a bath, light some candles and get her a nice glass of wine then leave her on her own to read. It’s a starting point. At some stage you will have to out yourself and you might be surprised at how easy it is. My wife has been seeing other men for over ten years. We choose to be discreet and still have a completely regular existence. Good luck.

Communication, honesty and reassurance are key. My wife isn’t into BBC but she is Asian and always had a thing for white guys.

For my wife it was about proving over time that I’m genuine about wanting to share her and that it wasn’t about wanting other women or some weird plot to escape our marriage. It took time for her to believe that she genuinely could enjoy other men and that by doing so I would get as much pleasure as she would and it would only strengthen our bond.

As I pointed out to her, I love and respect her too much to keep secrets and so I wanted to share this side of me no matter how embarassing and difficult it is to open up to her about. She appreciated my honesty, she liked the idea of an honest husband not keeping secrets and so she was happy to indulge my fantasy in bed.

Then it became a normal part of our sex life. If she wanted to turn me on, she knew what to talk about. She would start to talk about it more than me, it was something we enjoyed together.

But hearing me tell her she’s hot is one thing, what broke down the fantasy barrier was a couple of things. Firstly, she asked about my chats on a chat client and so I showed her. I think she was expecting it to be full of porn of other women but she loved that I genuinely was talking about her, she was reassured and excited, especially seeing what this other man was saying to a few of her pictures. She said I should have chosen better pictures so I asked her to pick one or two to share which she did and then I suggested she install the chat client and she can monitor our chat in a group chat, no pressure to join in. She was happy to. Less than a week later I was disappointed that she hadn’t said anything but then I discovered she had started 1 on 1 chatting with him and even flashed him and started to have some erotic conversatins with him.

It’s a very positive step to get to the point that she can talk to a guy and know that it’s safe and her partner is encouraging and happy about it.

I suggested they meet for coffee and she said “NO WAY”. The next day she suggested places to meet him, a pool hall since she had picked up that he enjoys pool.

Women can say one thing but feel another. No pressure but reassure and give comfort.

Meeting one bull and seeing how I was excited and not angry was a reassurance and encouragement and she went on to meet several more over the following weeks. We also went to a social and met other cucks, bulls and hotwives which helped to normalise it.

I can only speak from my own experience but I’ve found that it’s ultimately about communication and just gradually letting her share that part of your fantasy life and have it take root in her own fantasy life. Once she starts to feel reassured it will move along at its own pace which can be surprisingly fast.