Slightly confused

Hi there,

You’ll see from other Jezz offerings that i consider such private sex to be quite normal at the outset and to feature periodically as your wife choses thereafter. The point is (I would argue) that cuck life here is certainly about submission to her will and in this instance that also seems to serve the launch of the lifestyle. I know that voyeurism is big for some cuck males, perhaps even the primary interest, but that only works well where the wife is inclined to show off with another man. It sort of assumes voyeurism and exhibitionism always coincide. As you may guess they don’t. A woman may have to get comfortable fucking with the other man before you are admitted to the arrangement. Sometimes that doesn’t work out and then you have to accept that she continues to explore other relationships. This is where angst meets trust.

What is important is that your wife finds a safe place to have sex with her suitor. Its not wise (unless she knows him very well) for her to go somewhere that you don’t know about. We’re talking her safety here. I therefore agree neutral territory first and that she tells you when she will be with him, where and when she plans to be back. You might find that arousing, having to wait. But if she doesn’t show and you worry that ill might happen, you know where to go or direct others.

Now for what its worth, some couples thrive on cucking as a voyeuristic thing. But i would see it her way, what seems aesthetic- what allows the other guy to enjoy her. Key to everything is her comfort. That’s a good place to start. Jezz

I would urge caution. I started off like you and my wife responded but in my case she didn’t tell me. Again it was a co worker. What followed was a ten year roller coaster of emotions of all types both hers and mine. It is only now I can see the damage this has been doing to me and her. The problem is there is only one type of relationship and it involves two people depending on their sexuality. We are dealing here with hertrosexual people so this is a man and a woman. Women respond to men and men respond to women in this relationship, it is not complicated. The difference is that women are more turned on by simple things than men. A woman can be highly turned on by a man just by talking to him, men are more visual. Cuckolding leads to your wife/partner taking a boyfriend, in just the same way she took you at one time. It is simple he is a boyfriend plain and simple.They will laugh and play in a simple boyfriend way. If you look at my other blog replies you will see I have delved into all sorts of things to explain cuckolding, but the fact is cuckolding does not exist. All that happens in so called cuckolding is that your wife takes a boyfriend as you have forced her to reject you. You may have a masturbatory fantasy fuelled by pornography for female domination. You believe femdom exists.Believing this you set out to make it happen. Cuckolding seems like a way this can be done. It cannot be done this way. There are a very small number of women who are sexually dominant but most are not. There is no long term satisfaction in this just more misery masked by excitement fuelled by pornography. You may already have lost her. I have to live my life now with the knowledge that my wife has a boyfriend long term I cannot escape this and only age will cure it. Beware……………