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    • matmagic99
        October 19, 2012 at 7:33 am
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        #10546

        Seems to me that you should just back off to a comfortable level (for her) and let her relax and have fun like she was.  Don’t be in a hurry.  Enjoy the ride. Who knows where it may lead.

      • ukhub_tim
          October 22, 2012 at 4:19 am
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          #10551

          Thank you matmagic99, that sounds like good advice …

        • Junior
            October 22, 2012 at 4:00 pm
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            #10554

            I have a similar problem, read my post, I do not know what the answer is, but do not force it.  Do not let it drop completely either, I think the desire is still.  We have spooked them so how.Frown

          • matmagic99
              October 22, 2012 at 6:03 pm
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              #10555

              Shem, I like that you desire the cuckold life, but are still tied to the conventional as a couple.  I can relate fully.  We are progressing along this route.  I find it very exciting, even though the actual event hasn’t happened yet.  The fantasy itself is exciting for both of us.  Maybe you and I should communicate by email?  Or not, doesn’t matter.

            • southwestcple
                October 25, 2012 at 1:27 am
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                #10561

                Have you considered a BMFC party? The website is good and the people there will give you lots of encouragement. I’ve never been personally but the atmosphere and vibe seems a good one.

              • ukhub_tim
                  October 31, 2012 at 8:29 am
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                  #10586

                  Matmagic .. I would love to chat by email, not sure how to exchange emails here?

                • ukhub_tim
                    October 31, 2012 at 8:32 am
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                    #10587

                    southwestcple .. thanks for the tip, the BMFC parties look very exciting and I would love for us to go one day. At the moment I think they sound a bit too close to what made my wife get scared, so I think I have to go slower than that for now. Any other advice gratefully received! x

                  • southwestcple
                      October 31, 2012 at 9:33 am
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                      #10589

                      You’re probably right. Could be a good idea to register on the site and have a look at it together. Maybe get your wife to post some questions she might have. They all assure me there that if you go to a party you are under no pressure to play and there is one venue in particular that if you choose to remain downstairs it’s just like any other house party (except there’s more black men than usual of course).

                      We started by joining a swingers website and posting some pics. Also went in the chat room and showed off on cam. Jayne was very nervous at first but loved getting lots of nice comments from guys enjoying the pics and webcam show. You only show what you’re happy showing show no face shots if you want to keep things private.

                      But there are loads of ways to get started. As I said in my blog. Edge in slowly. Get used to it. If you both like then edge in a bit further. Oh. And stepping back isn’t necessarily bad or the end of it. Can be to just give time to think.

                    • ukhub_tim
                        October 31, 2012 at 9:41 am
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                        #10590

                        southwestcpl .. thanks so much for the advice. I will try registering on BMFC site.

                      • ukhub_tim
                          October 31, 2012 at 9:42 am
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                          #10591

                          Junior – thanks for the reply .. can’t find the post you referred to .. can you post a link?

                        • matmagic99
                            November 3, 2012 at 8:10 pm
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                            #10605

                            Shem, if you tell me an email address, I’ll send you an email with my address, but I don’t really want to put my address out there publicly.  Perhaps you don’t either.

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