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It is hard accepting the fact that your wife prefers sex with someone else and you have to be content with masturbation. It’s worse if she watches and you know she is comparing. It makes you feel less of a man and an inadequate husband.
If there are children at home and they know or suspect you need to keep their respect as their dad and as a good male role model.
Be supportive of their mum’s (maybe unusual) lifestyle buying lingerie is a great idea. If she’s going out comment on her appearance ‘Isn’t mum looking great. Have a fantastic time’. If your children are young and he is visiting ‘Mummy has to talk to her friend privately’. If they are older do an activity together as a’proper’ dad and if they’re still up when he leaves let them see you are happy that he is mum’s friend.
They will understand and respect you.