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    • Rob
        July 12, 2019 at 6:13 am
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        #28755

        Looking for some advice. Wife is 40, had been on the pill for 20yrs until 5 years ago. We finally have a steady bull she loves and adores but he refuses condoms and is always a deep cummer. He enjoys the risk taking and he would love to get her pregnant. A few months ago we had a pregnancy scare with a miscarriage at 4 months. We decide 5 years ago children were not for us and I had a vasectomy. Our abortion beliefs would prevent an abortion and we had talked about keeping it if she had carried to term. We really dont want a baby and looking for a discreet birth control method. Going back on the pill at 40 isnt a healthy option and wife thinks he will feel an IUD or diaphragm as he is often hitting her cervix. He would obviously discover any patch as well. We are kind of backed into a corner, Wife and I share the same family doctor and she performed my vasectomy with my wife present and we would like to avoid the conversations with her for obvious reasons. Plan B isnt a long term solution and feel an injection is the only logical route but just wondering if anyone has any options or experiences with this or any method that might be a better option.
        Any comments or advice would be welcomed.

      • AM
          July 12, 2019 at 6:59 am
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          #28756

          Go to a different Doctor. Both my wife and I have been “fixed”. Better to be safe than sorry. 🙂

          • JohnEE
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              September 29, 2025 at 8:17 am
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              #98229

              This sounds the best solution.

          • Cathy & Jerry
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              October 11, 2021 at 11:59 pm
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              #38020

              I know this is an old forum but I just have to comment. Doctors aren’t allowed to say anything to anyone about their patients. Find a different doctor if you’re not at ease with telling him/her about your lifestyle. Explain that this is your lifestyle and you want to avoid a pregnancy and that the usual forms of stopping pregnancy is not an option, you’ll find what you want/need to keep your wife’s lover inseminating her as he should be but without the final outcome.

              • Erin
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                  September 29, 2025 at 9:03 am
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                  #98230

                  I agree, and ultimately it will be her decision as she seems to be bonded emotionally with her bull. Nature sometimes takes it’s course.

              • joe and lola
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                  December 9, 2025 at 9:57 am
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                  #104463

                  When we first started our cuckold journey with Lola’s first guy, who quickly became long term, they both developed feelings for each other – strong feelings – but didn’t articulate it to each other and I failed as a husband to spot it. His youth was the attraction to start with, but was the weak spot as his inexperience and attitudes were not sufficient to carry through anything further. He got someone else preg and this saddened my wife so much they stopped. But still, they kept their true feelings back, because felt it wasn’t appropriate.
                  All these years later, with a more developed understanding of how things should be for people in a three, they lament not having a child together and I would be happy to be a baby daddy for them as he was, in truth, the closest thing affectionate love making with true feelings she has had ever.
                  So keep talking to each other openly. All three of you; its for the best. Fuck society and its norms, society isn’t in your marriage, you are.
                  Love and kindness
                  J

                • TK
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                    December 9, 2025 at 11:14 am
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                    #104464

                    This is an old thread, it would be good to hear from OP what worked for them. We’re in a similar situation, except most bulls we met were fine with condoms so far, but there is always a risk if one’s not on birth control or if the man didn’t have vasectomy.

                    We also understand the situation when feelings get involved and there is a strong incentive leaving the condoms. One solution could be to use a period tracker app and go unprotected for more bonding only on safe days, but the risk is still high.

                    • joe and lola
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                        December 9, 2025 at 4:52 pm
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                        #104467

                        We think that with a bull, its a big ask for him to be ok with making another man’s wife pregnant, if they are primarily only providing a service ie delivering satisfaction to a wife that is otherwise left without an adequate bedroom companion. But. When he earns the status of boyfriend, we feel he has a say on whether he wants a child with the woman he has grown close to and is probably in love with. That alone is enough reason, without even discussing the much greater need of your wife, who may want to have a child purely for the reason of something for her boyfriend and her to share together just for its own sake.

                        • TK
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                            December 10, 2025 at 12:19 am
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                            #104470

                            Our comment was reflecting to the risk of it happening. If it’s the desire of any of the three, it should be discussed openly together. The boyfriend has a say, yes. But we think the cuck shouldn’t be left out of that discussion, it’s not just about the wife and her boyfriend, as it’s a decision that has huge consequences and affects all of them. At that point they’re like a poly triad and they should decide together.

                      • joe and lola
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                          December 10, 2025 at 5:52 pm
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                          #104475

                          We agree heartily agree, of course it should be a decision you all take together. The issues will arise if cuck is not on board. Then where are we, do we say this is all a game, or do we really mean it when we say that the happiness of the wife is paramount?

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