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    • #35299
      Anonymous

        My wife and I only started in this lifestyle this year and she has had several lovers since we began, some being one offs others coming back for more. I do not watch and I’m not 100% sure I want to although I do quite often consider it. I always get a full report on proceedings and all questions get honestly answered.
        One of her quite regular lovers, one she enjoys alot has asked her, for his birthday, to have a threesome, him, her and a female friend of his who my wife does not know.
        I’m not sure about this and I am a little unhappy with it, I have a feeling my wife has agreed with it because she really wants to hang on to this guy, so she is doing more for him than for her. She has never in the past shown any interest in threesomes or having a sexual experience with a woman.
        In the end it is her decision and if it makes her happy I will not put any obstacles in the way, but I would prefer it if she was doing it for herself and not at the demand of her lover.
        Am I being over sensitive?

      • #35323
        Denied

          It’s understandable when your partner’s outside relationship changes in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. We can’t always control what happens when she goes out and that’s OK we have accepted that and trust her that anything that happens won’t affect our relationship. A threesome may not have been her choice but she wants to please her lover and that’s her choice. What’s the worst that can happen? That she enjoys it too much and wants more? That she doesn’t like sharing her lover? She will make the decision and we don’t have any say in that. It’s ok to be concerned for her but you’re right not to share your concerns with her.

        • #35329
          Anonymous

            Thanks for your reply Denied and I think you are probably right, I am straying into territory that should not be mine to give an opinion on. I was starting to feel very guilty for giving my opinion to my wife and trying to influence her, that is not my right. I also realise I cannot deny her the experience and (hopefully) pleasure she will get.

          • #35614
            TransStar

              So what happened? Did she enjoy the experience?

            • #35637
              Gracie

                It is perfectly normal and natural to feel some what concerned when things change. I know I sure have and even resisted at times but quickly learned that the change was a good thing, not a bad thing. For example, I did initially resist being feminized. Now I am so happy I have been.

                My wife very often has threesomes and moresomes with both females and with black males. I am not sure she wanted to with another female the first time, but now she does love it, although her preference is still big black cocks.

                I LOVE watching her, love it when she orgasms so freaking hard that it blows her mind and mine.

              • #35697
                Coffee

                  I think the way you feel is natural. My fiance never once would let me do anal with her. But it didn’t take long
                  for her bull to have that experience with her. It isn’t something to worry about too much I don’t think. It’s just part of the chemistry some of us may lack in the bedroom. He satisfies a lot of her needs that were previously unmet. Maybe she chooses to give in, because of that.

                  Our bedroom life was on life support before we got into cuckolding. There were things I just couldn’t bring to the table, and when the table is empty, how can you expect to receive without giving?

                  I prefer to think of things like this in terms of compersion . There’s beauty in acts of selflessness.

                  I am speaking from my own experiences, and takes, so take it with a grain of salt. Experiences will always vary.

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