giving up sex

Hell no if you don’t want this…….but yes, if you do.  

Is it just about penetrative sex? Would you still be able to pleasure her orally, for example?

It depends on what you want. if giving up sex is detrimental to your relationship then absolutely not. However, denial can be a HUGE part of being a cuckold. Personally being denied is very important to me. No self pleasuring and no cumming allowed even with the wife. This part of the lifestyle enhances my feelings immensely and I actually enjoy the denial. The edging which my wife allows me multiplies the feelings a thousand times. Wife and boyfriend allowed to have sex whilst I remain chaste and completely denied….leaves me frustrated beyond belief. But I enjoy the feelings and tortured emotions. The promise of release then agony at the orgasm being ruined is something I both look forward to then ultimately loathe as I am not allowed to cum.

Its a personal choice for both of you but something to be experienced.

Hello groom 2010,

I would be thinking along the lines of “how long is my wife likely to be with her current lover”? A month, 6 months, a year, longer? I know it’s not a question that can be asked directly or answered directly but it’s one you should console yourself with, at least. The likelihood of your wife’s relationship being indefinite is going to be remote I would have thought. Especially if you know that your wife loves you. A ceremony such as what you’re talking about ticks off a big cuckold fantasy I reckon. On the other hand, if the relationship is looking more like a marriage between your wife and her lover then your whole situation needs a complete reappraisal. 

How about asking your wife to make a commitment to you at this ceremony? Some give AND take.

I think it is great that it is all out in the open.  I’m thinking the idea is to formalise the relationship between the three of you, and to confirm your roles.  I think that you can only do this together, making sure everyone understands each other’s needs and desires.

I would think it very normal, as a cuckold, for your sexual role to change.  Not to say that you should be excluded or ingnored, just that in future you may be limited to oral or outcourse or some other form of sexual act which may or may not involve your willy.

I think if you embrace the cuckold lifestyle and your wife does as well, than it is only a matter of time that she moves on from a sexual relationship with you and becomes the sole sexual partner of her lover. I think all cuckolds are fooling themselves if they don’t realise this. Being a cuckold is an admission of submission and women are not attracted sexually to submissive men. I should know this because my wife gave up even the idea of sex with me years ago although she has a very active sex life.

English Cuckold:  What do you and your wife do regarding sex?  Are you even cut out of discussions with her?  Or have you become her sexual confidente?  Just wondrin’

Well, we don’t have sex anymore and, whilst she may discuss what she does with her lovers sometimes, she doesn’t do it to titillate me. She only sees what she considers alpha males and I don’t fall in that group, at least in her opinion. She can be pretty submissive herself with the right man and that really turns her on but she could never have that sort of relationship with me. She just considers me something of a neuter, sexually.

I fully agree, any husband embarking down this road must be aware that his access to penetrative sex will  either reduce or disappear. 

My Wife has not cuckolded me – yet!

However after she disassociated my erections from having sex as described by Luvr, she held my cock in bed at night last week while cuddling and stated matter of fact that my cock had lost its usefulness to sexually please her. That is a big statement from any wife. It is to be expected if you are on this path.

It helps that I have an understanding doctor who is, in her own way, a feminist who believes my marriage is an ideal model which should be embraced by more couples. She is also my wife’s doctor and friend. Every three months I am given a shot of Depo-Provera which eliminates most of my sex drive and even controls my fantasies and helps make my marriage work better. The drugs also assure that I can no longer have an erection and, after a few years, I have noticed that my prick has visibly shrunk. I also attend the surgery every Friday morning for oestrogen treatment which normally wrecks my weekend and confuses me until at least Monday. I find it impossible to go out of the house on Saturday and Sunday, but I use the time to clean and do the laundry for the week. I know the treatment is reversable but, for the time being, this is what works for us. It eliminates any guilt feelings my wife might have for denying me sex over the long-term and it makes me a better husband and provider for her. It also teaches me that marriage is not just about sex. It is about taking care of a woman, allowing her the freedom she deserves and applying myself to other things I am far better at doing.

Way too touchy feely, it seems to me. I’m even surprised that LUVR would sign off on this particular path.  Sounds unhealthy, to be honest.

Hi matmagic,

i was referring to the article Denial is Devotional. My wife seems to have followed the instructions to the letter

what has changed is that I am blood pressure tablets and is reducing my libido

sorry if it came across wrong. We are close and my wife likes holding my genitals. However she recognises that for her pleasure it will no longer do

Actually, I was referring to Englishcuckold’s post.  My bad.

I couldn’t give up sex with my wife but I’m restricted. I wear a cage much of the time and she and her master bull have keys but when he’s not here She’ll unlock me if I beg her. And she likes for me to fuck her before he does to get her wetter for his big cock.

hwhub

You are very accommodating. I am sure her lover appreciates you getting her wet. Then it is into the cage for you. Fantastic.

Hi we had a commitment ceremony in 2013 and sex became between them only including seeing her naked. It is a tough and difficult decision, each couple must find their own unique way. For us this has settled and become the best way forward for us. Hope you find yourself.