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    • motley
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        February 3, 2015 at 1:27 pm
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        #9780

        Last year my wife and I traveled to NJ, staying with family to attend her high school class reunion. Towards the end of the evening she started reminiscing with one of her classmates. The venue was closing and they did not get to finish catching up. As we were staying a few days, the next morning I suggested that she contact her classmate for a lunch date to finish their reminiscing. She did so and they agreed to meet for lunch at a local restaurant of his choosing. She got ready and was taken aback a little in that I did not want to go with her. She met him for lunch and they talked over the intervening years since HS. The bill with tip and wine came to almost $200. As she had invited him she paid, he did not offer to go half or at least pay the tip. Afterwards they sat in his car for an hour to let the wine buzz dissipate. (She later confessed that they “made out” a little, thinking about their sexual inexperience as teens.)

         

        LUVR, I have not seen much discussion in this forum of this topic so my question is: Who pays when the DOM/BULL takes the wife out on a date?  Couples with children have a lot of bills to pay.  I can see that a serious hit on the couple’s finances could make a cuckold/hotwife lifestyle unaffordable.

      • StokieUKCpl
          February 8, 2015 at 4:50 pm
          Post count: 32
          #11835

          Sometimes its right for the cuckold to provide for his wife to have a date. However, what you described sounds bloody rude and disrespectful. For any man to expect any woman to pay everything and not even share the cost… thats just dishonourable. The guys a prick. 

        • carolinacuckandwife
            February 10, 2015 at 2:06 am
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            #11838

            i agree with Stokie. there is much that i gladly supply my wife and her boyfriends – sexy lingerie, clothing that he might enjoy her wearing on dates, and even a hotel room occasionally. but that is not to say that a cuck should pay for everything. the situation you described above is insane and the two of you should never have had to pay that entire lunch bill. it’s not expected and it’s certainly not required in this lifestyle. i feel as if the Bull is getting as much out of our lifestyle as we are and if that’s not suitable for him than he might be the wrong choice for us.

          • Kristin
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              February 10, 2015 at 12:22 pm
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              #11839

              I agree with both stokie and carolina in the situation you describe he should have paid at least half,if not offering to pay all.of the lunch bill. When i am out with my bull on dates my husband sometimes pays,or both hubby and my date split the check.but hubby always pays for the hotel   

            • jaggu008
                March 19, 2015 at 6:21 am
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                #11874

                AS all our finance is in her hands and i have even ledy my job and become a full time home maker, there is no question of me paying for theur outing. I dont even know if she pays or make her Lover Boy pays

              • Badbart54
                  March 22, 2015 at 3:35 pm
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                  #11878

                  Do you have a budget when buying groceries etc.?  If so, you should cut your budget closer by shopping sales/savings (denying your self) in other ways to pay for the bulls visits.  That way you are “working” on saving money for their enjoyment….being submissive to the bull even when he doesn’t even know it!

                • Luvr
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                    March 29, 2015 at 9:35 am
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                    #11893

                    It has always been my policy to pay for dates when I’m present and it’s a date. If it’s something more casual – meeting a new couple for the first time, then splitting is an option, but the last thing any self-respecting bull (let alone Dom) should do is leave the impression he’s a leech on the couple and cannot support himself.

                    If I mandate some changes in clothing for her I do expect the husband to be paying for those but I will also contribute to her new clothing. As with all other aspects of this lifestyle – everyone should be involved and have a share in things.

                  • groom2010
                      May 14, 2015 at 8:51 am
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                      #11941

                      As far as paying wife and share bank acct. So when I pay we both pay.  Her bf will pay for events that he wants to take her to…but generally. It is me.

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