The Girlfriend Game is a short film of fourteen minutes based on a short story by Nick Antosca. The game being played is nothing new to those with any lifestyle experience, but to the uninitiated, this film can be a powerful example of a couple following their instincts to arrive somewhere neither of them consciously expected.

I will avoid any spoilers by making my comments below. Click the image to open the film in another tab/window (no graphic, sexual content).




Like my first couple, these two are operating on pure instinct; neither of them are consciously aware of the true dynamics at play – until it happens. I believe this is a common experience for many couples and is part of the reason I built this site and communicate with couples as I do because being consciously aware of the dynamics enables a couple to communicate about them and make better decisions.

Even couples aware of the dynamics and interested in taking that next step, a catalyst beyond their immediate reach is often necessary. Most often that catalyst is a male who is sufficiently attractive and trustworthy to take that step with. In this story it wasn’t so much the guy, but the situation.

Unlike most every other portrayal of this lifestyle in media, I didn’t find any of the typical, false stereotypes that portray this as an issue of inadequacy on the male’s part (as illustrated by their obviously enjoyable coupling in the opening scene), or one of cheating on the part of the female.

We all empathized with her for having to even go to his ex girlfriend’s party, but her decision to play the game afterward wasn’t about anger or revenge, it was about empowerment.

what-an-adventureStarting with the scene at the curb, she clearly communicates that she is still playing out ‘the game’, but this time, she’s taking control and choosing for them when and how it ends. On his phone we see her refer to this as an adventure, a clear communication that this is still something shared between them. Through the window, he can see her slight smile at him as she draws the curtains.

Ultimately, it’s these small acts that enable him to accept the shift in power and its consequences.