First and foremost: read and comply with the chatroom rules before entering. Failure to do so may result in unintended violation of the chatroom rules/customs and result in your ejection. Ejection results in landing on the rules page, so those who then fail to read the rules and simply return to chat most often get banned.

Moderators

Follow the directions of the moderators or risk being removed from the chatroom. Repeated violations or sufficiently stupid violations will result in a permanent ban from the chatroom and potentially from the entire site.

Bans

Bans are forever unless lifted. To have a ban reviewed, contact me and be prepared to explain/defend your actions. Be an asshole after being banned from the chat and you’ll be banned from the entire site.

Common reasons for being banned:
  • chat names or chat content includes elements that declare or invite bisexual interest
  • chat names or chat which indicate or imply being underage
  • chat names or chat which indicate or imply incest
  • chat names or chat which indicate or imply any illegal activity
  • failure to reply to a direct question from a moderator
    • moderators include Luvr (owner), steve69, sussex_couple
  • failure to respect the right of others to refuse communication
  • just being an asshole (entirely at the discretion of moderators)

Chatroom Names

Chatroom names for registered (logged in users) can be changed as referenced below. Guests will have to choose a name for themselves, but as stated above, private messages are not available to guests. I do not expect this to change.

New Look, New Features

Yes, it’s quite different and has some challenges to it, but I believe the pros outweigh the cons significantly. The new chat is most likely here to stay.

The old chat everyone is familiar with has been around just as long as the site has. When I first implemented a web-based chat, I went with Parachat. Back then it was a license purchase and done.  Only a few years later, they hopped on the hosted service/ subscription model to ensure recurring revenue. I have no real problem with that, but I do have a problem with failing to keep up with changing browser, operating system, and security threat changes. As of the last few days, Firefox browser joins Chrome in not supporting some of the underlying technology used by Java – the preferred client for the old chat. Flash was still an option, but that doesn’t run on iOS devices. The mobile (html) chat was always buggy as shit and the iOS app was pulled from the Apple Store without explanation. So, that leads me to today’s update.

Introduction

The new chat will work in pretty much any browser, PC, mobile device, or tablet. On the phone, tap the chat icon to load the chat page, tap it again to enter the chat. It should even work on Smart TVs with a browser (not tested).

It can be accessed by the ‘Members Online’ tab shown on the right. This tab appears on the right side of the screen for most pages in the site.

Once the tab is clicked, a tabbed list will open. By default, logged in members of the site will be displayed. The group chat is listed at the top (CMINFO Chat). Clicking this will open a movable window from which private chats and public chat participation is available. This window can be resized. Private chats can be initiated with anyone logged in whether they are in the group chat or not.

For a cleaner background while chatting, chat while on the ‘blank‘ page. If the chat fails to recognize your log-in on the blank page, navigate to the chat launch page to resolve that before returning to the blank page.

Gravatar

The default user avatar, if a member has no chosen a profile picture or edited the profile through chat and changed their avatar, is the Gravatar. This is a widely adopted avatar system that links to your email address.

Icon Descriptions

Hover the cursor over a name to display additional features. First is the private chat window (members can exchange files in PM), the second is to set someone as a Favorite (member only), the third is moderator only (ban), and the last is to ignore someone.

Chat rules still apply.

I highly encourage site members to log in to the site – the new chat recognizes site membership automatically. Being logged in to the site enables three chat features:

  • private chats (guests may only initiate private chats with a moderator to seek assistance)
  • sharing files/images in private chats
  • sharing links in public chat

A lesser benefit is that members who have set a custom avatar for themselves in their site profile will find that icon also used in the chat. Also, should our chat community grow, I can use membership roles to automatically create access to additional group chats.

Profile Edits

Members can make some profile edits directly from the chat by clicking on the menu icon (upper right) then clicking the profile edit link. This will allow editing of the profile pic (also used as chat avatar), location, and profile link values.

  • Username, in this instance, is your chat name/nickname and won’t change the username you log into the site with.
  • Please set the country value to accurately reflect your country, but feel free to set the City field as precisely or as vaguely as you choose (city/region/state/province).

Functions

At the top of the chat is the title bar. On the right side are two icons. From the left, they are the pop-up window launch icon, and the menu icon. Use the pop-up button to create a public chat window free of the website (see limitations below). Use the menu icon to log in (if you entered as a guest but do have a membership, change your availability status, or to turn sounds on/off.

  • The slide-out chat can be resized by dragging the left side of the chat window
  • The pop-up (floated) chat can also be resized
  • The user list can be opened and closed
  • clicking on an avatar in the chat user list will open their profile in a new tab

Limitations

  • Guests cannot share links in the public chat
  • Guests cannot share images/files in private chats
  • Private chats can only be opened from the slide-out chat. Once opened, the slide out chat can be closed and the private chat will remain as will the pop-up chat window. Opening the pubic chat as a pop-up window while closing the slide-out chat may give more flexibility when juggling multiple private chats.

Troubleshooting Common Issues

  • you are logged in to the site, but chat doesn’t think so and wants to force you to log in as a guest: This happens mostly when using the blank page (cuckoldmarraige.info/chat.htm – to resolve this, navigate to the chat launch page cuckoldmarriage.info/chat/ and wait for chat to load, then proceed to the blank page for distraction free chat.
  • private chats open for the recipient when they open for the initiator (not after text is sent) – this can cause accidental PM windows fairly easily
  • if PM windows don’t close, refresh the page and try again
  • refreshing the page is the easiest way to fix most issues, including to see any profile changes made in that session
  • to make the chat environment flexible while browsing other content, use the arrow icon in the upper right to pop out the chat window from the site – this will enable monitoring of public chat while in other browser tabs, but it will not allow you to initiate private chats – private chats will remain in the tab or tabs of the website.