Who is Luvr?

The only thing more erotic than enjoying a submissive is enjoying a submissive wife – in front of her husband.

I am a Dom who has been involved in promoting and actively enjoying the D/s lifestyle, as applies to cuckolding, since 1996 when this website, FMSB.org, was first established.

Over the last decade, I have personally trained and enjoyed a half dozen couples and coached countless others in learning about themselves, their submissive nature and their role within BDSM and/or cuckolding.

Who’s in charge around here?! I am!

A common issue among couples is role confusion. When the wife wants the husband to take control, especially sexually – and the husband secretly wants his wife to do the same, they have a problem. As a Dom, I establish and maintain the trust that enables providing that leadership. It’s difficult to explain, but for so many husbands it’s terribly erotic for them to see their wife respond for another male in what can only be described as an obedient fashion.

Our Greatest Erogenous Zone: the Mind

Above all else, this lifestyle is about the mental arousal associated with activities that are counter to social norms yet somehow feel curiously natural. Your wife may only occasionally take you into her mouth, but for me, she’ll eagerly kneel while looking right at you and tongue the fat head of my cock. One would think you’d be mortified to see her pleasuring me in ways she prefers not to offer you, but there you are, sitting across from us nude, your penis painfully erect and leaking cuckold’s tears.

Once your wife has my cock fully erect, I could bring her to you – and put her hands on your knees so your face is only inches form hers while her bottom and pouting sex are vulnerable for me. I would want you to not only see the expressions on her face as I explore her from behind, but would want you to be able to steady her when her orgasms overtake her.

I may have her fondle you.  I may have her ignore your penis and forbid you from touching it – it belongs to me as much as the sex gripping my cock does.

Feeling a bit aroused now, are you? As I said, the mind is our greatest erogenous zone and where it goes, the body follows.

Training Together

What makes this work is experiencing your submission together. Any Dom who doesn’t recognize the value to the couple, importance or fun to be had by directly including the cuckold in this arrangement is a fraud.

Introductions

The first time we meet, after chatting online for some time, might be at a bar or restaurant: somewhere public where you can feel safe. We will already have discussed how your wife is to dress for our dinner date together and I will have already talked to you both about the intimacy you will both share as the husband helps prepare his wife to meet another man.

During our dinner, when conversation turns to the topic at hand, I will begin testing you both. Testing your submission and testing your desire to be a cuckold couple. I will start slowly and always work to include the husband. having insisted that your wife wear a skirt and blouse to our meeting, my first test is to see how you two expressed yourselves within that desire I expressed. Did you choose something simple? Did you choose something simple, but encourage her to leave another button open so I could enjoy the view of the lace bra she rarely wears?

I often start there. I will ask you, the husband, to open another button on her blouse so I can properly enjoy the view of her lovely breasts. It will then be the husband who shows his wife to me, in public, and in so doing, affirms before his wife that he desires my leadership of you both.

This scenario is not only a fairly harmless way of dipping my foot into the pool, so to speak, but it also proves I can arouse you both without even touching her.

Rules & Guidelines

Customs, rituals and rules are all very important to this lifestyle and to me. Rules& rituals provide a comforting structure for submissives, precluding the necessity to worry over what to do or how to do it. Being that I prefer submissives to slaves, I expect my submissives to learn my preferences, to learn my body language, and be able to react accordingly based on experience and pre-determined rules.

My first established rules often revolved around how the wife dresses. Most women find they enjoy being objects of sexual desire once they are free of the guilt associated with such behavior. I expect any wife under my guidance or ownership to dress in a sexy, appealing fashion.

• Bras, when worn, must decorate the breasts, not conceal them
• Bras may not be lined or padded so as to prevent me from enjoying the view of them aroused against your top
• Pantyhose is never to be worn (except as required by a dress code at work)
• A wife’s legs will be bare under her skirts and dresses or they will be sheathed in stockings for me
• Pants must meet my approval to be worn and will only be worn for approved purposes
• These rules apply whether with me or not so you both may be reminded of my role in your marriage

Training

Training is a never-ending process. Training is the means by which you, as a couple, get to express your submission to each other and to me. Training can happen at any time, public or private.

Should I take the wife out and allow her husband to come along, he does so knowing she is my date and he is not her husband for the evening; he is her cuckold. Outwardly, people around us may have no idea of the nature of our relationship. They will have no idea that under the table, while we’re casually dining, my hand is between your wife’s legs, lightly petting her. While invisible to the casual observer, your familiarity with her – and with me, will expose the erotic fact that while we converse and dine, my hand is resting between her thighs where I am gently petting her sex.

I look at you and ask you, “Are you?” and knowing what I’m asking, you answer aloud, as taught. “Yes, I’m hard…”

It’s important for your wife to know how erotic it is for you to see her give herself to me.

Discipline

Training is nothing without discipline. One of my foremost responsibilities as your Dom is to ensure you both get as much of what you desire from this as possible. Usually there is conflict in this area which I have to resolve. While I may insist that you not enter your wife for 24 or even 48 hours before I see her, I may also order that she be required to make you spurt using her hands and mouth at least once a week. If you fail to honor your rule, she may also balk in hers, so you each enforce our rules having learned that we all benefit in the end.

When my rules are not followed – or sometimes simply because it exercises your submission, I may discipline you.

The form of discipline will depend on the couple and their distinct personalities and can take the form of:

• teasing & denial
• humiliation, private and/or public
• cbt and/or corporal punishment

Of course, you’re thinking that’s not punishment, but there’s always that line, isn’t there? That line where something you enjoy becomes something momentarily difficult to enjoy?

For the husband who has enjoyed his wife’s increased attention to his penis, at my order, to then experience being kept at the edge for an hour, then two, then three, before I have her restrain it in a chastity device so we can continue again after I fuck her, that would blur the line.

For the wife who has come to enjoy the way men now take notice of her closer fitting tops and shorter skirts to be dressed like a common street walker and led through the Mall with her cheeks peeking from the bottom of her skirt and her dark nipples clearly visible to anyone within 5 feet of her, that would blur the line.

These are but two examples in a nearly endless variety of ways you two can express your submission together under my guidance.

My Muse, My wicked pet

I am very fortunate to share my life and lifestyle with a beautiful, loving woman who is both intelligent and sexual.

Submissive is never a word those who have known her over the years would ascribe to her, yet I knew she was a repressed submissive when I first got to know her and couldn’t help but want to free her.

You will know her as wickedpet and she will be writing about her journey here as well. I will sometimes capitalize her name because she is also curious about a role as a Domme and has rather wicked interests should I find submissives for us to train together.

It’s important to note that ‘Pet’ is not a demeaning term. Think about it – our pets are loved, cherished and want for very little. It is our responsibility to see to their care and wellbeing. I believe this description very aptly describes who my pet is to me and how treat and train my submissives.

Curious?

• Are you curious about how to proceed? Contact me.