The ‘sissy’ aspect to cuckolding is one of the less explored aspects by active cuckold couples, but necessarily rare. I’ve long held that putting a cuckold husband in panties can be an effective training and role reinforcement tool, but it dawned on me that the use of pantying a husband should probably be done more selectively.
Let me provide some context: most cuckold scenes, as expressed in cheap porn or popular media portray cuckolding as something the husband is victimized by. He’s bound and ‘forced’ to watch his wife be ‘ravaged’ by someone else, for example. I’ve always maintained a no-bondage rule, in most cases, for the cuckold attending his wife’s coupling with another man. Why? Because that’s the definition of submission. If he’s tied and has no real choice, it’s not submission. Yes, he submits to being tied, but then he has a subconscious out for his inaction during her mating. When he’s free and still remains seated, nude and forbidden from touching his terribly excited penis – then we’ve really achieved submission.
When we feminize a cuckold we assume that the act of feminizing him is another avenue of submission as being a male in panties (or more) is very humbling. While I still believe the practice of panyting a cuckold can be effective in that way, taking feminization further than that I think is counter-productive. When the gender role lines become blurred for the cuckold, the very foundation of what makes cuckold what it is becomes threatened.
Without the cycle of returning to a fully male state, the sissy may lose the gender perspective so important to properly cuckolding him.
I believe the mistake made with most sissies is allowing them to retreat too far into being a sissy and thereby having mental and emotional ‘cover’ from their role as a cuckold husband. To combat this, the sissy must only be allowed to be feminized as part of a cuckold or femdom related scene and must (mostly) revert to his male status afterward. It should be the act of stripping him of manhood that should be the focus, not forcing him to spend more time not being a male. Men who need that are likely confused about their gender identity to begin with and that again completely muddles the entire cuckolding dynamic.
Just my two cents – would love to hear opinions.
hmm this is a good one. sheri and her boyfriends get better pleasure from me being completed naked and caged. i know when i do my chores sheri also prefers me to be naked and caged. there have been times when they did require men to dress as a maid but those occurances are rare.
I believe that to be a complete cuckold is to highlight my “short” comings as a man and not as a sissy. So being naked and caged while they are clothed or having sex or when I am wating on them seems perfect.
Interesting post. For me, the issue of retreating into a female identity seems like an end to itself. For a cuckold who’s not into cross-dressing, I’d think that frequent feminization would probably derail the cuckold role by making it seem too demanding or absurd. But yielding to a Dom and being humbled by him is a powerful part of cuckolding for many, and for a male to be marked with feminine things is a potent sign of his role, and of having been humbled. Of course there are many other ways to accomplish that, and I’m sure every Dom has his own rituals to affirm the sexual roles and hierarchy.
I agree with Luvr’s point. When a cuckold husband adopts a sissy identity it allows him too easily to escape the challenging truth about his humiliatingly ineffectual manhood. A sissy isn’t a man at all but a make-believe woman. A sissy can preserve his male identity as a set-aside and keep from confronting the fact that he can’t satisfy his wife, pretending for the moment he’s not in competition with the bull. But as a cuck male who loses the competition there’s no escape from the challenging fact that he’s a lesser man to his woman. He has to own his subordinate male role.
mmm not sure on this one. As an idea it excites me personally. To me it is sensual and maybe a recognition of the more sensual nature of the cuckold, who tends to be more sensual and sensitive by nature. One of the great satisfactions and indeed turn ons about cuckolding is accepting your, in my case, wife is having sex with another man and there is nothing I can do about it. However through time this event runs the risk of becoming just an accepted affair, sort of you do your thing and she does hers. This reverts to a sort of open marriage, though one in which she has all the benefit, lets face it a cuckold is in no psychological state to source other partners. Therefore cuckolding must become ritualised the female must never loose sight of the fact that a one sided affair is not on and is as damaging to a cuckold as it is to any other man. Pantying shaving and so on are like icons in the religion of cuckolding, it is ritual and just as in conventional religion it serves the purpose of appreciation of standing and role.Cuckolding could be considered to be a bit pagan and indeed has within it reflections of pagan type worship, goddess worship and so on. In cuckolding we are all sort of worshipping our own sexuality in one form or the other. Therefore panties , yes good for ritual. It would be great if there were accepted cuckold pants. Imagine if society accepted this and a cuckold wore certain forms of underwear, something which reflected his status. On the female side some small rituals are emerging like the ankle chain and so on. Therefore panties are nothing to do with humiliation, true humiliation is never good for anyone, never……… Lets not talk of humiliation a cuckold is not humiliated nor should he be. A cuckold is a very loving person who loves his wife/partner so much he will assume this role if she wants him to. In the role he will play out certain rituals as will she and the bull. Some of the roles we may indeed borrow from our pagan past in that we kill off established views of gender roles and allow ourselves as male cuckolds to let the female ” goddess ” play out her role.
To each his/her own, but for me stripping of manhood is unnecessary; the mere presence of the Bull in the relationship accomplishes that automatically.
The Bull sets a certain standard of manhood. The cuckold clearly is not or cannot live up to that standard, and so the cuckold necessarily suffers in comparison of what manhood means when compared to the standard set by the Bull.
To reinforce this point, and humble the cuckold IMHO it’s better to “neuter” the cuckold rather than to feminize him. Caging a cuck’s cock is a symbolic way to neuter him, as are many other aspects of cuckolding: controlling the cuck’s orgasms, submission, enforced chastity or required use of condoms while the Bull gets bareback, etc.
“He’s bound and ‘forced’ to watch his wife be ‘ravaged’ by someone else, for example”
Interesting you mentioned this as most men who try and hit on hottie use that very quote as to what they think cuckolding is. she usually ends the conversation there- she thinks a cuckold when present must be able to assist and help her in any way she wants. it could be serving drinks to herself and her boyfreind or maybe giving the wife a chance to exibit her control – maybe telling her cuckold to strip and show that he is in fact in a cage. That shows the husband as submissive and reinforces his role as supporting her with obeying her and accepting this role in front of her boyfreind.
Good article, it should be part of the cuckolding not the ONLY thing