As mentioned in our updates and profile, james and I have recently evolved from a ‘swing’ to a cuckold couple. Being in the swing lifestyle for as long as we have been married (29+ years), we have developed some very close friendships as a result (and not just for the bedroom). There is no question that the swing lifestyle has been a positive and fun experience over the years and because of various get-togethers I was able to explore and discover a greater sexual pleasure than what james could give me. It also allowed james to understand the positive from this and the intense pleasure that we each can differently draw from it. There is no doubt that the most important result is a tremendous trust and understanding that has come to better define us as a cuckold couple rather than a swing couple.
Uncertain yet about how to describe to others our cuckold marriage, and because we know future invitations can happen, our thinking right now is how can we blend our cuckold relationship with going to swing gatherings, reasons more for connecting with those fun friendships that we enjoy rather than the bedroom romps. If we go to a swing party, and being dressed to be displayed, do I continue as in the past and take the hand of those that lead me into the bedroom?…this is a possibility based on my past behavior and the aggressive nature of some guests. Do I allow myself to be intimate with another man? Should I get permission before from my boyfriend? Or do I politely decline and make up an excuse? And at the same time, if he is approached, should I deny james to be pleasured by another woman?
This has been an ongoing conversation between us for awhile without any conclusions until recently when we were invited to a party for a close friend who we met through the swing lifestyle. It was not a question of whether or not we would attend. It was a birthday party and the guest of honor, ‘T’, is dear……and very well-endowed, which made it easier to decide how the party could be fun, bent in our way. We agreed that I would only have an interlude with ‘T’ as my bull for the evening.
The party had an early start and there would be a lot of familiar faces and catching up with friends that we hadn’t seen in awhile. Within minutes after arriving to the party, ‘T’ and I embraced and I whispered in his ear that I wanted to be the first to blow out his “birthday candle”. He was more than happy to hear my wishes and immediately confided in me that he would be celebrating by not counting the drinks and that I should not wait too long. Since he gave me the heads up about the drinking, I kept an eye on him; I did not want to miss my opportunity!
The invitation we received encouraged the women to dress in sheer clothing. Since the party started in the late afternoon and arriving guests would be fully visible to the neighborhood of the party location, those who wanted to dress to the theme had to change clothes after arrival. In the car to the party and for the first 30 minutes after arriving I wore a striking blue strapless maxi-dress and white 4” wedge sandals. After some conversation with other guests, I had james privately help me change into a long form fitting white sheer knit lace dress matched with the same heels and with a white thong panty visible underneath. The outfit displayed perfectly my statuesque figure and immediately caught the eye of ‘T’ (not to mention others that I was not interested in).
After some time it was evident that any of the typical swinger playing wasn’t going to happen right away. Guests were busy socializing, drinking and eating the light meal that was served. Though there were a couple of aggressive men who made advances toward me to “take my hand”, I brushed them aside knowing I was saving myself for ‘T’. Having been with ‘T’ before, I knew for a fact that he was a true bull and I wouldn’t be disappointed. Some of the others, I also knew would be less than satisfactory. It was exciting to me (and james) to go into the party with a sense of purpose and empowerment. I wasn’t going to play with men for the sake of ‘everyone’s doing it so I might as well too.’ James also refrained from the advances that he received from several women. He wasn’t in chastity but behaved as if he were.
Not too long into the party I was able to find my way to sitting next to ‘T’ alone on a couch. While we chatted, I noticed a pillow on the floor at his feet. Feeling the exhibitionist in me, in view of the room and others, I kneeled on the pillow in front of him signaling for him to pull out his cock and let me suck and stroke it until it was very swollen and erect. Eager to feel his penetration, I followed him back to a bedroom where we immediately lay on the bed with clothes coming off, and began kissing and fondling each other. james, by invitation, had followed us into the room and watched for a while commenting admiringly on the size of ‘T’ and then left to give us privacy. The last thing I wanted was any distraction while I was getting complete pleasure. It didn’t take long for ‘T’ to push his cock into me and the thrill I felt was incredible. After several minutes on the edge of mutual full climax another couple suddenly entered the room to watch us. That certainly took the wind out of my sails. Soon the woman was teasing ‘T’ with her swollen clit, and contrary to enjoying ‘T’, her boyfriend was inviting me to suck his limp penis. It was pointless and uninspiring, so I excused myself and got up and dressed, then left and returned to the party, conflicted by what I enjoyed but not fully satisfied. I saw james on a couch, sat down next to him and teased him with the details of what had just happened.
The party continued on. While others were drifting back to the bedrooms we stayed clear to avoid any awkward moments of “hand tugging”. We enjoyed ourselves regardless and continued to chat with others for awhile. When some guests started leaving, we decided to join them, making sure I said goodbye to ‘T’ with a kiss.
The evening didn’t end for us then. A long drive home allowed us to talk about the party, from me describing again the sexy details of my time with ‘T’ (interrupted as it was) to both of us chuckling over the funny and quirky moments of the evening such as ‘D’ with his 3-D scanner, scanning the hostess’s naked to body to create a life-sized sculpture for the birthday ‘bull’. By the time we arrived home I was feeling relaxed and sleepy but once in bed and after some intimate kissing with james, feelings of empowerment and arousal seized me. I was quick to ask james, whose penis had become fully erect, to give me some oral pleasure…and not long after I directed him to put on the sheath, well lubricated for my pleasure. Fucking myself on the sheath never felt so good. After four strong orgasms, I contentedly removed the sheath and for being such a good cuckold for the evening stroked james’ penis to a ruined but intense ejaculation.
In retrospect the evening was enlightening for the two of us. We learned and feel confident that when it may occasionally happen, we can go to a swinger event by setting boundaries honoring our cuckold marriage. Most importantly I discovered the boundaries are only as good as the sexual empowerment I embrace. In a group setting, and in front of james, it was easy and exciting to control someone else’s desires to what I needed. If a bull is not present I also know james can later assist me otherwise 🙂
Did the evening give us a complete resolution to the swing conversation? No. But admittedly our cuckold relationship, in a manner, is a recent change and the subject moving forward creates good conversation between the two of us. What is certain is that the interaction with the swing side reaffirms that a steady cuckold relationship of three is more exciting and satisfying.
This is as usual a very well written blog post. We had been exploring both the swinger world, club, 3some with another man and with couples but both agree “the extra man” is by far the most appealing to both of us.
Last time we tried a more “her alone with him” setup than usual, but after a while I couldn’t resist joining, and my wife was kinda expecting that too. But the moments with them alone was still the best part of the night.
Perhaps we should make the next session so I’m away from them, not able to interact? My wife certainly enjoyed 1:1 sex with the guest, but only because I was part of the game, at least on the mental level.
Any good suggestions to increase our cuckold level?
Anne I enjoy reading about you and James. The Keys and Anklet podcast was great. I have been in 2 long term hot/wife relationships and love it.
Thank you for your message and happy that you enjoyed the podcast! In the relationships that you mention, we’re you involved as a bull or a cuckold? What did you love about them?
My exwife was a hotwife that had many very open visible relationships with my friends and coworkers. She later cuckolded me with a coworker for several years, we split up later for non cuckold related issues. My wife now has had 2 long term relationships that have worked out well for both of us.
Do you have a private email?
Hi, please feel free to send me a private message through this site…thanks, Anne
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Amazing the people I am finding on this site. Wow. I am lucky enough to have finally FINALLY been Cucked two weeks ago after a five year journey. Why didn’t I know about this site? Amazing. Other sites demand money etc, etc. This is a true commitment to Cuckold lifestyles. I can not wait until MY WIFE Cucks me at the level YOU Anne Cuck James. Truly beautiful. x
It’s great to read other couples perspectives on the lifestyle. Once you decide to embrace it as a couple, it really helps cement the relationship and allows you both to explore your inner selves.
We are now at the point where we have a life commitment to each other romantically but sexually we know we both need and desire other things. J has just started something with a new lover, its early days but they seem into each other and text etc every day. Our sex life has revolved around oral and masturbating for years now, so its nice to see her feeling like a woman again – me, being bi, i’ve started to lean more toward sex with men for a cople of years and with her being with another man allows that to develop too.
Good luck with your journye, communication is key, discuss feelings and be open to things.
Thanks for this insightful article Anne. It is very helpful and relevant to us as we make a similar switch. In fact, we declined an invitation to a swing party this weekend out of concern that J might feel awkward declining invitations so as to remain true to her bull of 6 months.
Anne, thank you for the post . This is a amazing article. My husband and I started swinger lifestyle a few years ago. It is fun and we live a very exciting sex life. Hubby got into the cuckold lifestyle a year ago for obvious reasons. I realized this is another new world for me.
I like your elegance and confidence Anne, you looked great in that outfit. It’s interesting to read the evolvement of your relationship as you are progressing in the lifestyle.
I currently have four and yes he likes one of them better than the others because he’s bi and likes to fuck my cucky as well as me lol.
Wooow i love bi cuck loveddd
Lol so do I. It’s nice to watch him take a cock and enjoy it 🙂
Yes my cucky has met them all and served them all 🙂
If you don’t mind me asking, how many Bulls do you have and does your cucky have a favorite?
I have had this done to me as well, by my g/f, Susan…she has had at least 10 men and two women over about 15 years and I am made to get them ready for her and I have cleaned up right after them, with the cum still hot in her bare pussy…she has me under her control…Tim NY
After being in the Cuckold lifestyle for almost 6 years (swinging several years before) we couldn’t think of anything else we would want. My cucky isn’t allowed to have sex with me anymore and doesn’t have sex with anyone else which he’s very happy with. My lovers take care of my needs and my cucky is as happy as I am and even asks me for permission to clean me after a date which I gladly give him permission to do. I’m happy to see such enjoyment by others in our chosen lifestyle.
Thanks for your comments! I couldn’t agree more with you…I also enjoy hearing from others who have happily and successfully transitioned from a swing to cuckold lifestyle.
Have you introduced your lovers to your cucky? I am trying to establish a solid relationship of three between me, my lover and my cuck. I was just curious.
I’m sorry, I haven’t been on for awhile because I’ve been travelling with my boyfriend. The answer to your question is yes, my cucky has met every one of my lovers. My current lover and my cucky get along very well, they even go fishing together and my cucky will give him a blowjob or two while out in the boat. Cucky loves to wear panties and sometimes other frilly ladies garments and will answer the door wearing them when my lover comes to spend a night or weekend with me.
Susan has developed the ability to have sex with others, and I, of course. Do not have those rights…I am the cuckold, she has said, so the discussion of me having sex with others is out of the question…she has said to me that she is not the type to share, so her answer has always been, “NO Timothy!”
If I ask even ask her if I can have sex with another woman or ask if I can have sex with her, she notifies me that I will not be orgasming this month or next…she tells me that’s just the way it is…period!
This sounds great Cathy like the perfect cuckold relationship 👌
Thank you for your comments!! We’re lucky that we can see the forks and our intuition/better judgment usually leads us in the right direction and consequently toward a cuckold lifestyle. 🙂
Or story is very similar Anne. We have been swingers for ten years this year, and we have had similar experiences to what you describe with you, T and James at the swing club – especially the moment when a couple mistakes the wife’s passion for another man as an invitation for couples swap. At some point there becomes a fork in the road and your tastes take you down a different path. Thanks for the great article! We always enjoy your contributions to this site!
Ist very good to know such a wonderfull people around..take care..
You are astonishingly attractive, lady! This is the first time I am surfing the site and your mesmerising charm captivated my imagination.
gosh when i read these stories and comments how others are into cuckolding makes me feel so much better i guess i thought we were only ones in this lifestyle my first experience ocured when i went to a meeting n dallas by myself it was a meeting of minority businesses that evening i dressed and went to the bar expecting to havec a drink and then go to bed i sat down and the most handsomest darkest biggest black man asked if he could join me i hesitated and then accepted he was most interesting we talked til the bar closed he then invited me to his room for a nightcap we went to his room and when the door shut we just threw off our clothes i dropped to my knees and began to suck that enormous cock he then picked me up and we laid on the bed he licked my clit and i had an enormous orgasm he spread my legs and with some difficulty slipped that huge cock into my dripping pussey i almost fainted it felt so good when i got home i told jack about it he was so happy we agreed to including this lifestyle
WOW hot story/reply please post some of ur status and adventures
Another fantastic blog post, Anne. Thank you!
And what an amazing outfit!
Thanks for your message! I’m thrilled that you enjoyed my recent post.
I have to thank james for his good taste, he’s my personal shopper! 😉
Stay tuned for future posts!
i sure enjoy all ur post, and WOW u get sure look like u can anyone u want to use..
This is a great article and I am sure many can relate. We too started at swinger parties and takeovers, even met a few couples out when we first started. Although we both new from the start we were not seeking couples for us or females for me or her. The fantasy was always the hotwife/cuckold fantasy. Early on we learned we had to be very honest up front with people, and have had some great experiences in the Swinger Lifestyle playing as a cuckold couple. We make it clear S is the only one who plays outside of OUR relationship, and we are fine with the other wife watching with me if she chooses. Makes for great conversation :). Although like you we have had plenty of those awkward moments where other couples move in, or people just think we are full of shit and of course we are all going to play which has turned us off to that scene a bit unless single males are also allowed to come. It is unfortunate you and T could not finish, maybe next time you can have a private locked room :). We also had a great experience where we were invited to a swinger party, no single males, I explained to the host our situation before accepting and he invited a single male friend to come who he thought fit her taste. They hit it off, he is a fighter pilot and about as alpha as they come. It was the first night I thought I was going to lose my wife to another man, but in the end it strengthened our marriage and like you said helped me under stand she needs to be able to explore and discover a greater sexual pleasure than what I can give her.
Also very hot sexy dress you are wearing!
Thanks for your message. Its nice to hear another perspective and it gives us some ideas on how to move forward at our next swing event, which is in a couple of weeks in Denver. The good thing is that we really won’t know anyone at the party except for the host couple and the close friends who invited us to join them. james and I will set our boundaries beforehand and plan to introduce ourselves as a cuckold couple and see where it goes.
We’ll message you privately to let you know what happens.
im excited reading ur post how do i click or become friends with u? as i dont want to miss anything u do or say…