A while back I introduced Jayne, my girlfriend, to my developing sexual fantasies around cuckolding and what I now understand to be my submissive tendencies. It’s taken a couple of years but we have now had a couple of meets. To those wannabes who are yet to persuade their wife (or even to dare broach the subject) to enact their fantasy for them, I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but that’s the easy part. The hard part, the really hard part, is finding the right guy.
Whatever your thing is you and your wife will have a pretty good idea of what will really do it for you. Hopefully it will be similar and after some talking you’ll have a pretty good idea of what kind of guy you are looking for. Say you want a fit, young, black, well hung, repeater with good manners and a pleasant, respectful personality who doesn’t smoke and knows how to treat a lady well in the situation you are interested in. Oh and he’s got to live reasonably close (not too close) and be able to fit in with your other commitments. I could go on, but you get my drift. It’s not going to be easy to find who you want and they also have to be into the ‘scene’. We started out on a swingers website and had great fun. We’d go on cam on the site and eventually Jayne would get her tits out and enjoy the compliments while toying with me. We also try and use the cam to verify guys who we might want to meet so we know what they actually look like. You’d be surprised how many guys can’t cam for a variety of absurd reasons.
Before I go on let me stress how many time-wasters and bullshitters there are out there. How many are never intending to meet, lose their nerve when it comes to meeting or are really with partners and when it comes to it, bail out and either cancel or just don’t show. Others have an endless list of reasons why can’t they verify what they look like or why they can never meet. It can get dispiriting but just keep plodding on until you hit lucky. Some people more experienced on here may have a few tips on how to find the right guy, we’re still learning.
We have met two guys and both meets were great fun and left us wanting more. Both were young and fit and very well mannered and behaved impeccably. However, neither were well hung (one was smaller than me the other a similar size) and both were a little overcome by the situation. Jayne was also understandably nervous and it was after they’d left that the real fun started. Both guys played a huge part in the great sex we had after, and still have now. The first guy came on her tits the other fucked her. Listening to and watching them lick her pussy, play with her tits and fuck her was intensely erotic and gave me a raging hardon. I never spurted while they were with us but in the hours after the 2nd meet we shared 7 orgasms in just over 24 hours. I’d spoken to Jayne before the second meet about how I wanted wanking off into a wad of tissues. She didn’t really understand why and I tried to explain it in terms of my sperm not deserving of anything better. It was a mild D/s act. Like many things it didn’t quite work out like that. I spurted quickly enough, missed the wad of tissues and came on her tits. The complete opposite of what was intended and we fell about laughing.
Neither guy made her cum and they only came once each. I still want to be cuckolded ‘properly’ although neither of us consider either of the first two meets as failures. They weren’t what we’d fantasised about but they were great fun, the guys were perfectly well behaved (no-one wants to meet an arsehole however big his cock is) and we’ve learnt a lot, not least that Jayne needs to tell them what she likes. Not sure what the next step is. Considering a BMFC (black mans fan club) party. Very erotic but a big step.
My biggest uncertainty is the likelihood of my turning the cuckold roleplay she actively uses in our bedroom play with denial into a real life experience. It is wonderful to read how others have gone from one to another and the difficulties encountered. Thanks for sharing
From a Bulls perspective –
It is just as difficult for a Bull to find the right couple. There is an assumption that Bulls are just out for a shag and any cuckold couple would do. This is clearly nonsense. Just as couple are looking for the “right” Bulls, A good Bull will also be looking for the “right” couple – based on personal preferences. This is where many hopes are dashed.
I think many cuckold couples make the mistake of not understanding what the Bull is looking for from the experience and end up with Bull just looking for a shag; hence the dissapointment.
The question is – What exactly is a Bull? Is he just a man with a big dick who will come and fuck your wife whilst you watch? Is he a toy that will fit perfectly into fantasy scenarios that you have created without him? Do you want him to be dominant? To what degree? To yor wife alone, or to both of you? Do you want humilation as well? To what degree? Do you want him to be a big cummer? And how much staying power should he have? Does he eat pussy? If no, is that an issue? Is your wife attractive enough for the Bull? What exactly is this scenario you have created in your head? Is the Bull aware of ALL of it, and not just the fucking part?
What i’m saying here is that Bulls are human too, not sex robots. They have their likes, dislikes and preferences. Moreso, most fantasies are unrealistic (at least in their fantasy format).
This is where communication comes. Talk, talk, talk, and then talk some more. Get as much undestanding as you possibly can. Be clear to the Bull about what part he is playing and what you expect from the experience. This is not supposed to be a lottery. If he is happy with it, he will join you and both parties have a wonderful time, hpefully to be repeated. If not, the search simply goes on.
Hi its interesting to see it from your side ..Are you an experianced bull ? ..i would like to know about you more
Thats very interesting and thanks for letting me know bout this site.
Totally agree with OP. We have tried a few guys and all have fallen way below expectations…none have really acted out the scenarios we all agreed on..and it was pretty clear they are just out for a shag….so many guys on Fabswingers will Lie Lie and Lie some more to get into a girls pants…
one guy we met couldnt even get a hardon…and this before he came!!! My wife is no supermodel but shes a horny dirty bitch….he didnt quite like the fact that I was there methinks.
Still looking for a bull to join us in our cuckold relationshipo 🙁
Great post, thanks for sharing. Lovely to read a post clearly based on real experiences and with real advice. My wife and I are slightly behind where you are, and have a profile on fabswingers as well, so it was a very interesting read.
Such a lovely cock, I know where it belongs
I call this the “You have to kiss a lot of Frogs” phenomena. You have the right idea though, persistence. It will pay off. At first your dream guy is all fantasy but as you gain experience, your expectations will become more in line with reality. He’s out there waiting for you and your girl. Keep us posted.
I must say it is rather quiet here but I have been here since mIRC days and this type of scene both here and r/l also gets me wet:).