Cuckold / Hotwife Marriage

Cuckolding: the loving violation of traditional marital expectations.

Introduction To Cuckolding

For one spouse to express this concept to another is an act of love and trust. Skeptical as you might be, being here is a great start to having an open mind and an even closer marriage.

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Tending The Marital Garden

A simplified analogy to provide perspective on the role of a lover within the marriage.

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Cuckolding: A Love Triangle

Integrating another male into the marriage as the wife’s boyfriend is rewarding and safe when practiced with a healthy perspective and in a responsible manner.

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The Biology of Cuckolding

Our base instincts and biology lead us to cuckolding.

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Family Friendly Cuckolding

Non-explicit methods to enforce a positive message about a wife’s dating rather than allowing their own perception to frighten them.

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Cuckolding is often seen from the outside as a kink founded in humiliation and inadequacy but the reality is far different for most couples actively involved in it.

Cuckolding takes the foundation of a stable, loving marriage and extends it to include one or more males who play a specific, sexual role within the marriage. Contrary to popular myth (especially online), a husband's sexual inadequacy is only a significant factor in the desire/need for a cuckold marriage in a minority of cuckold couples; for most, this is a loving way to expand the boundaries of their relationship and safely explore more aspects of human sexuality.

A wife-centric, rewarding experience for everyone.

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The image right is an excellent example of a loving, cuckold marriage dynamic. Wife, husband, boyfriend are all involved. The wife is being touched, reassured and pleased by both her men and in return, is pleasing them both - just in different ways. Inviting another male into the marriage exercises the marital bonds as weights do a muscle - requiring effort, but making them stronger for it. When practiced properly, cuckolding will bring a couple closer together & greatly increase intimacy despite of and also because of the intimacy the wife now shares with her lover. Ccuckold-symboluckold was first established in 1996 following the founder's first experience openly dating someone's wife.  Since then, the mission of the site has evolved to one of education, empowerment and encouragement. Cuckold Marriage Info also seeks to correct the misinformation online about the lifestyle. While the definitions below aren't fully sufficient to educate someone new on these concepts, it at least puts us all on even footing to communicate from the same perspective. Please join us in the chatroom to have a more interactive experience. To continue gaining perspective on the basic elements of this lifestyle, take the curated tour of articles by the founder.

Important Terms To Know

Though the use of labels/titles/definitions is often hotly debated, I have established some definitions within this community that members and visitors should be aware of to communicate effectively while participating here.

The term "cuckold" has a classical definition of a husband to an unfaithful wife. The term was coined from the Cuckoo bird which lays its eggs in the nests of others and never raises its own young. While there have likely always been husbands who enjoyed their wife expressing her sexuality with others, the modern usage of a husband who is supportive of her extramarital intimacy has only been around the last twenty or so years.
A cuckold marriage is one where the husband has encouraged his wife to take the lead sexually. The most direct and most meaningful way to empower a wife with sexual authority is to enable and support her extramarital sexual exploration. Cuckolding is the loving, willful violation of traditional marital bonds. The empowerment of the wife to take the lead sexually is an expression of D/s roles.

Often treated as a polar opposite of a cuckold marriage, a hotwife marriage is focused on more casual sexual interaction with other males without much familiarity or regularity. Most couples start out as a hotwife marriage by default since the exploration of a cuckold marriage takes time to develop. The difference between a hotwife and cuckold marriage compares to the difference between a bull and a Dom.

The term bull is often used as a general term label for a male involved with a married woman. Often falsely thought of as being synonymous with the term "Dom", a bull is involved purely from a sexual standpoint; as would a bull let into the pen of female livestock - hence the term. A bull can be assertive sexually but still lack the experience and bonds necessary to provide a submissive/couple with effective leadership. A Dom (also referred to as an Alpha) is far more involved with the couple and often plays a significant leadership role.

D/s is short for Dominance/submission and is an overt recognition and exercise of the natural, social ranking and roles we all participate in subconsciously whenever we interact with others. This process tells us whether we can/should assert ourselves with someone, defer to them, or see each other as peers. A couple are inherently practicing D/s when the wife is shared outside the marriage.

This site is a social community and as such attracts a large number of people with a very varied motivations for being here. While I never seem to have women here pretending to be men, I do often see men here pretending to be women or pretending to be part of a couple when they are not or at best, their wife has no knowledge of this activity. To counter that, I encourage couples to become verified. More information on that process is available here.

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Download: Hotwife Introduction

A downloadable PDF that can be viewed online, shared via email, or printed as a means of starting a conversation about the hotwife role and this website.

Asylum Chastity

This chastity device not only maintains strict, secure control of a cuckold's penis, it also keeps it impaled on a hollow, urethral insert.

The Fuck Bench

Who can't imagine some use for this? Suitable for use by cuckold or hotwife, the possibilities are near endless.

Penis Shock Collar

Though designed for use around the neck, the training collar can just as easily be secured about a cuckold's much more sensitive dangly bits to deliver adjustable feedback with a handy remote!


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